Why isn't my husband suspicious of me having an emotional affair even after I hint it to him?
I’ve read the signs of infidelity and I clearly have them like taking extra care in my appearance, change in sex drive (it went up), staying later at work, I work out more now, etc. I even asked him if he was suspicious of me since all of a sudden I started to care so much how I look. He doesn’t seem to care. He even once said that I was incapable of cheating.
Well, I haven’t cheated physically, but I have very strong feeligns for someone else at work—to the point where I want to quit my job.
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Tags: appearance, extra care, job, sex drive, signs of infidelity
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Sounds like your husband has complete trust in you! You have NO idea just how lucky you are! You know how many insecure men that are in relationships that put their partners through hell because of mistrust issues from past relationships or whatever the case may be! Just to let you know, I have a very close friend whom has done what you are leading up to! At first like you they worked together a lot and began to have feelings and then led to the act that he sooo wishes never would have happened. He lost his wife, his children didn’t speak to him for a month. Those kids were his life. He said it was the biggest mistake of his life. Not only did he have to deal with his family, but his siblings and parents weren’t to happy with him either. You effect sooo many lives, just because you have puppy love! Get with it! You have a man that trust and love you! Wake up!
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Well ,maybe your husband is happy and secure…..ever think about that?
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
why are you hinting to your husband that you are having an emotional affair; that is pretty sick in and of itself……you need to quit your job and do all the things you are doing FOR your husband
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Sounds like your husband trusts you, and you are willing to destroy that trust and twist it into him not paying enough attention to you? What, did I read that right?
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
I’m going out on a limb here…but maybe he trusts you. But that’s obviously misplaced.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Men are stupid.
We think like lizards and do NOT take hints!
Have you ever tried to hint something to a lizard?
Go to a pet store and try it. You will get the same results from you man.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Well most men don’t get signals. They don’t take hints either. You have to be precise and clear when you want them to do something so I guess this falls in the same guidelines. You have to come out and tell him and not just hint.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
The emotional affair…so much longing, so much guilt and the thrill…exciting to you, but you must remember that men are dense. Your husband obviously trusts you, which is why he’s not suspicious. Maybe that’s part of the reason you’re looking around for attention you aren’t getting. If you feel you need to get away from the object of your desire to prevent an affair, I’d say that’s a good idea. These things can go either way, and it’s better if it just ends before you hurt someone. Try some counseling if it’s available to you, and talk to your husband about how you feel…just don’t cheat. It’s so hurtful. If you respect him, leave him before you get to that point.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Your husband loves you, and he thinks you would never do something like that.
So sad!
You are why men treat women like they do.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
I think you’re ridiculous and blinded by lust if you can’t see that he trusts you. Besides, why would you destroy valuable trust to have an affair with a coworker? Honestly, you make no sense to me. Have some common sense.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
You’re being mean. If you have something to say to your husband, say it. Don’t play games.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
your husband really loves u and trusts u completely. he isn’t the one who has cheating on his mind so its hard for him to even consider such a thing in his life. maybe u need to quit the job, and focus on the husband and not this man u really don’t know. its all about lust, and the excitement of meeting a new person, temptations come at all of us every day, but most people are smart enough to never act on them, because our choices in life can hurt others, and ourselves. our choices can change our whole destiny, good choices create good to happen in our lives, and the other kind of choices create bad things to happen. as we all were born with free will, but there are consequences for hurting others, and going against the rules of the universe. feelings come and go, are u willing to give up your marriage for just a feeling?
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
-Lady you are courting disaster on that route, you must change course immediately!
-You are privileged that he has so much faith and trust in you ,why would you want to destroy the regard of pureness and integrity that he has for you????Not many husbands are a quarter so trusting!!He must surely worship the ground you walk on.
-Don’t quit your job; just abandon this madness of attraction and feelings for a man other than your husband.
-Think back to when you and your hubby fell in love and you will find reason to resurrect that romantic feeling.
-This is a phase of life and it will pass, the aftermath and how it impacts your relationship will depend on the wise choices you make now .
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
You need to stop and think about why you are doing this. Is it for attention ? Or is it because you don’t love your husband anymore? Whatever it is you better figure it out soon.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
You should read the book "women’s infidelity" It will not only answer that but a lot of other questions you might not even have, yet. you can also contact me and we can talk, or I can let you use the book.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
why would you openly flaunt your emotional cheating to your husband? why not be a decent person to your husband who apparently loves you and own up to your feelings for another man? how would you feel if he was doing this to you??
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
Yeah, it’s wierd…I get the same attitude from my spouse. Went thru same thing here…..I could perch on top of TV or computer butt naked and still be ignored.
I don’t know if it’s so much about trust as it is indifference and that’s sad. Very frustrating when a spouse hasn’t time or any real interest in you and it just is like "going thru the motions" day in and day out. We’ve only been married 5 years and the last 2 years it’s like I am invisible. Wears your self-esteem way down and you begin to wonder about your attractiveness until you get to the point of starting to look elsewhere, then when you do, YOU are the bad guy. Before acting, think about what you really want, let him know, and if he still keeps the indifference going……get out. It ain’t gonna change.
August 23rd, 2010 at 9:52 pm
He is either happy and secure in your relationship or he just doesn’t care.