When will the Ex-Girlfriend move on with her life?
So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for one year now, we started dating 3 months after he broke-off his 1 year relationship with his Ex. I thought I was the rebound at first, but he explained that they had been mentally detached for about 2 months before the break up, because she always showed signs of infidelity, lied and got caught, and just couldn’t stop doing stupid stuff. So since we started dating, she befriended his little sister on facebook, and showed up at her HS graduation (May 2010). He told me he was highly pissed that she was there and asked his fam why was she there. They told him sorry, but she promised she would come when yall were together. After the graduation, she emailed him & told him she was going to stop contacting him & his family. Well, after that his little sis moved here to prepare for college. I had some insecurity with his sis, b/c I didn’t know if she was still talking to the Ex. I still included his sis when I took my lil niece out & on trips to the mall. His sis is a nice girl. In Oct 2010, the Ex emailed my BF & said she was going to be in town for job training before being deployed & asked if she could take his is shopping. He told her no, & told me that’s why he had to break up with her b/c she has issues letting go & couldn’t keep promises. So I go out of town for a funeral, & less than a week when I get back my BF & his Sis get in a big argument. The sis called there mom & went back home. I find out from my niece that the lil sis met up with the EX behind her brother’s back & went shopping & to the movies when she was here. So I was still friends with the sis on Facebook, noticed that since the argument, the Ex was writing on the sis’s wall almost everyday. Now, March 2011, I found out through my sister’s facebook, b/c I had to block the sis and the EX b/c they were out of control, that the Ex went to hangout with the Mom &sis for Xmas, sent the Mom a present for Vday, & the sis a present for her Bday.SMH, then I hear his lil sis gave the girl a shoutout on FB saying “Happy Bday to the best sister ever”…Now,my sister has removed my BF sis off FB. Its ridiculous b/c the EX wasn’t that close with the fam when the my BF was with her, he only took her home 2-3times, & now she’s determined to be in the mix. Not only that, but the MOM and SIS are welcoming her b/c they mad at my BF. What person sends their EXs mom a Vday present from over seas? I’ve talked to my BF numourus times and he agrees that they all are acting out of control, BUT whats going to happen once he and his fam forgive each other? I feel that this chic has disrespected me several time, she messaged him, emailed, and now since he blocked her, she’s best friends with his MOM and SIS! How will I ever trust his fam once they forgive each other, & how long do you think before this chic moves on with her life?
I know I can’t control others, but I need some support b/c I don’t wanna end up doing something stupid that will hurt my relationship with this great guy.How would you handle the situation, b/c I feel like i’m being super patient right now…I haven’t said anything to this chic…but it’s been a year now…
How do you handle negative views you have about people before you meet them. I really want to feel comfortable around his mother, but how can I when I thing she’s unloyal, and the Ex is already in the position i’m supposed to be in? For all I know she could tell the Ex anything thats going on bad between me my BF. HELPP!
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April 6th, 2011 at 2:42 am
Only one person finds the way to your heart, the others just lead the way
April 6th, 2011 at 2:42 am
I know how you feel, my boyfriend is in college and i go to school with his EX, she constantly texts him and messages him on fb. its a sign of insecurity. she also has befriended my boyfriends younger sister and is always hanging out with her outside of school. his EX also has harassed me and texts me about how me and him shouldnt be together…..all they want is to start drama, you have to learn to ignore it and not let it bother you because the more they see it bothers you the more they will keep it going. it will eventually die down and blow over. she will get tired of trying to get her ex(now ur bf) back once she knows he no longer cares. as for his mom you have to just go into the house like nothing happened. if she sees something is bothering you she also might agg it on. but ur bf mom might also be befriending her for the fact she is friends with her daughter. try not to argue with your boyfriend about it b/c it will make him made
good luck!