In short, my husband worked with a girl who constantly flirted with him, did not correct cafe staff when they assumed they were boyfriend and girlfriend, her car constantly "broke" down so he would have to take her to and from work, and she played the "my boyfriend doesnt treat me right" card so that my husband felt sorry for her. I saw right through her, but was told I was being paranoid when I mentioned it to him. (I know details such as above as a relative also worked there)

She then started texting things like "i walked past your house last night, didnt know wether I should stop by" and general topics of the weekend etc.

I think it is highly innaproppriate to text, and as I didn’t want hubby to know I was snooping, just had to bare it

She invited him to a Christmas Party, but not myself or my relative, but I went anyway. There she and a female colleque had dressed up as Santa’s little helpers, the adult costume type, and was quite shocked to see me there. (Just my husband and another male staff member was invited - that was enough for me to prove my case)

I told my husband that I didn’t like her, and that I know he know’s she is flirting, and its unnacceptable as we are married. I shower him with enough affection that he shouldn’t feel desired by someone else’s advances.

It’s not being clingy or over protective. He is your husband, not hers. If it is killing you and making you anxious inside - he needs to stop talking to her.

This "work husband/wife" is nonsence. You go to work and get paid, that’s it. They can get along with everybody at work and at work functions without the need for further personal contact outside those times.

You may trust your husband, but you don’t have to trust the other person. Especially when she is probably making him feel sorry for her due to her divorce and partner living so far away. This is how affairs start.

Be straight up – say that you will be nice to her because she may be a nice person bla bla, but you have to put your foot down. Say that it really hurts you and you don’t want them speaking outside of work, no texts, no facebook/myspace etc. If he tells you to stop panicking, tell him that you can’t be bothered worried because you think she has the wrong intentions. He may say he doesn’t want to be mean, but that’s not yours or his problem. I would NEVER text a person of the opposite sex if I knew they had a partner.

If he doesn’t know how much it hurts you – he won’t think to back her off.

If all else fails – tell him you don’t want him working there!

She is filling a role in his life that you can’t fill. Don’t take it personally. It’s no more a direct threat to your relationship than any of his other relationships with family or friends. You don’t feel threatened by his mother or sister, do you?

ppl don’t just pursue and keep pursuing someone who’s not returning the attn. are you really concerned with their r/ship more than your own marriage. screw the b/tch, you do what you need to do in order to save your marriage, being so thoughtful of others will only leave you with regrets and "nothing"