suspicious… red flags flying. ?
my wife is the flirtatious type which I knew from the get go. she has male friends, but for the past few months one of these guys has gotten too close for comfort. she is showing signs of infidelity, but I’ve no proof and when asked she displays anger and tells me he’s an overweight slob..to give her more credit than that..that they are just friends. well, I’ve never seen this guy. he has money and gifts have shown up that my wife claims are for her daughter. he has hired her to drive him to business meetings that require over nights in a motel. they are in constant communication via text msg’s but she guards her phone and has changed all her email passwords. she says if she was going to cheat she’d leave me first, but she has financial dependence on me and older kid’s that would be full of questions…she is short tempered and not as attentive towards me as I’m used to. she proclaims innocence but I’m still feeling it
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Tags: anger, business meetings, email passwords, financial dependence, innocence, just friends, male friends, money, proof, signs of infidelity, slob, text msg, wife claims
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
Yes I think she’s cheating. Tell her that you’re not putting up with her "friendship" with this man- and you’re leaving her.
I don’t think the onus is on you to dig up proof of her infidelity. She’s the one who should be put on the spot and should prove herself.
Bring up the kids in the conversation and how they’d feel if they knew and how they’d be affected by a split. If she’s not braindead, this’ll get her thinking.
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
I agree there are red flags ALL over your world right now. Be strong, make her accountable, set boundaries fro your marriage (what she is doing with her new male friend is not respectful of the marriage. Her finances are not your problem. Stand up for yourself, send a clear message to the kids and kick her to the curb.
Good luck
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
all this speculation with no proof what sense does that make…
why not find out which motel they go to and find out for sure..but if she isn’t doing anything then u live with the guilt knowing u didnt trust her
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
you have reason to be suspicous, it kinda devious n sneaky..but ever consider a camera or recorder.. then u can find out for sure
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
Coquette’s are always insecure sIuts who didn’t get enough attention from daddy.
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
I’m an infidelity couples counselor, and I have to tell you, always go with your gut, it’s usually right when it comes to infidelity. There are numerous red flags for infidelity, and she’s clearly gaslighting (lying to cover her behind about it). Gifts? Overnights at a motel? Constant Texts? Guarding her phone? Changing her password? Yeah, classic signs of cheating, and normally only 1 is enough to be wary of cheating, but you’ve got numerous ones. If you want answers before you confront her, put a keylogger on your computer. Here’s a good one that I know of:
http://www.webwatcherkids.com
I hope that helps.
August 19th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
"She has financial dependence on me"
That statement says it all sugar daddy. Sound’s like she is looking for another/additional sugar daddy. She’s more than likely cheating on you. Hire a private detective and be prepared for the results. Take all necessary steps to protect yourself financially before you expose her. Cancel any joint accounts and make sure that she doesn’t have access to anything just prior to booting her to the curb.