Six Month?!?!? Is this normal?
So my wife and I got married six months ago. Had a great honeymoon and wedding. We have lived together for 5 years and we have a four year old daughter together. We have had some dry spells in the past maybe lasting every couple of weeks but we are on a six month stretch of NO SEX!!! I stopped pressuring her a few months ago, stopped asking questions and still no change. I’ve had my suspicions as to whether or not she is cheating, but it’s hard to say. She’s home every night and she doesn’t have all the signs that point to infidelity. Can a woman seriously go this long without sex or any physical intimacy at all? I mean, everything has stopped. Also, she doesn’t masterbate (so she says). I can’t imagine a human being going this long without any sort of sexual stimulation. Any women go through this or husbands go through this at all? I mean it has literally been six months of NOTHING and it doesn’t appear to be improving. She won’t do counseling either. What causes this?
She is 26 years old. She has mentioned she is unhappy and stressed. She used to be a very sexual person. She’s extremely attractive also. I’ve never dealt with something like this before so I’m not sure how to handle it.
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Tags: counseling, dry spells, honeymoon, infidelity, masterbate, physical intimacy, sexual person, sexual stimulation, signs, six months, suspicions
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
She needs to talk to her doctor.She is probably experiencing a hormonal problem.Usuallys when women reach about 25 or 26 they desire more sexual activityso there is definantly a problem.She really needs to tell her doctor and get help!
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
why dont you talk to her ask her what is wrong maybe she is uncomfortable with talking about it … open up the lines of communication or see a dr. by yourself first get some information and talk with her about it
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
I am a full-red-blooded American girl, and believe it or not, I have gone without being intimate with a man for the last seven years. I’m not happy about it, but that is the hand life has dealt me for the time being. So to answer your question it is possible for women to go without for longer periods of time than it is for a man. Your wife sounds like she may benefit from a counseling session or two. You have to make her see that you need help to resolve this issue.
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Yes Yes, Women can go this long without sex or any physical intimacy. Nothing wrong with that. The only thing is that she is not happy where she is now.
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
It’s good you’ve stopped pressuring her and it sounds like you’re doing all the right things. I assume since you’ve suggested counseling that you’ve asked her why she isn’t aroused anymore.
You need to let her know how empty and unhappy you feel now, and how worried you are about her. Come from your heart. If it gets to the point where you aren’t even feeling loved anymore, she needs to know that too.
Do you feel it’s more of an emotional problem, or a physiological problem, like complete lack of libido? How old is she?
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
slip some viagra into her coffee or soda.
October 21st, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Hi there, YES it’s possible for women to go for this long & maybe longer with no physical contact.. Though there is normally a health issue or no partner. My Mum has strange hormone problems & shut my dad out for a year before they seperated & now divorced. You should look for signs that she maybe depressed, see if you can talk to your mum or hers. maybe if she has a girlfriend she’s close to…. if you REALLY can’t talk to her. Hope this helps, i know easy for other people to say talk but it’s where to start. Even if she won’t at first at least ask her to listen to that your worried about her. OR write her a letter explaining how much you miss her old self & how this is making you feel & ask her if she can’t talk maybe she could write her feelings down too.