Comments on: Should I keep my opinion to myself abot my best friends husband?

By: DearAbbey

DearAbbey — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

Please think about this… If you truly respect your friend, you will allow her the dignity of making her own mistakes. You’ve said what you wanted to say and she’s let you know that she’s not interested in your opinion. Take the hint and back off.

If you really think about it, your position could be seen as arrogant. You are the self appointed committee of one who has decided to intervene in your friend’s marriage. This is not cool. Please stop doing it.

If you’re right, your friend might very likely leave her husband. So she will lose her husband and perhaps you at the same time. You could get blamed for her situation — it happens. Back off.

You’ve made your share of mistakes. Let your friend make hers. If you have any respect for your friend, you will realize that she is capable of making her own decisions and she is capable of living with her decisions and she is capable of fixing her mistakes. Let her live her life.

Be there for her and be a friend to her. Don’t try to tell her what she should do or how she should interpret things. If you really care, then take it easy and just be her friend. Be a good listener.

Good luck to you and your friend.

By: goldlust74

goldlust74 — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

it sounds like you are stalking him.

By: Chris B

Chris B — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

No. Get what you have to say off your chest. Short term consiquences aren’t gonna be very good, but you have to look long term. You’ll be better off.

By: angie

angie — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

sometimes you can’t help those who don’t want to be helped. You need to make her realize that the kids are being hurt. maybe organize an intervention with more of her friends/family.. maybe she’ll listen to a group.

By: Faith needs a cute name for Y!

Faith needs a cute name for Y! — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

Just let her know that you’ll be there if she ever needs to talk.

Please don’t push the issue.

Support her, encourage her, do fun stuff with the kids.

By: Sofie

Sofie — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

I think since it has gone far enough to physical abuse as well as emotional. You should do whatever it takes to get her to realize and stopt the harm thatss being done to the kids. Your a good friend!

By: jack jack

jack jack — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

do something about it . just dont let it continue . it will mentall y affect the kids .

By: xovenusxo

xovenusxo — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

If you continue to press her you may end up wrecking the friendship. She will find out on her own and will need a friend there when she does.

By: surfer_grl_ca

surfer_grl_ca — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

Don;t leave it alone or push it, simply have a good chat with her. Tell her how much you love her and the kids. Explain to her you are not trying to cause problems but you need to get something off your chest and get her opinion on it. get it out in the open and see what her opinion on it is.

You have been friends a long time, she should be thankful to have someone that loves her and cares about her as much as you do.

By: ~~Tessa~~

~*~Tessa~*~ — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 06:56:53 +0000

It’s her life, maybe she wants you to back off.
When she needs you she’ll let you know.