Should I be nervous about my wife going to her sister's bachelorette party?
We have been married for 9 years and no history of infidelity. We have 3 fantastic kids and I would rate our relationship as rock solid 10 out of 10. No complaints. Now that our youngest is three we are out of baby making mode. My fear that she will see what the single life is like again and be tempted. I have read too many horror stories about mid life crisis and now my brain is spinning. However, I have no signs of suspicion whatsoever. It has been business as usual over the last few weeks.
They have a bar crawl planned in the city at some pretty high end clubs and bars. It is not her vibe and I fear that the alcohol may make her make dumb decisions. Her sister and her friends are in their mid 20’s and know what they are doing. But my wife is 33 and like I said has been busy being a great mother and not used to the party scene. Why do I have this pit in my stomach? I would say I trust her but obviously I dont since I am writing this. She is so sweet and I feel sometimes that makes her very naive. Especially if she gets goaded by some 20 somethings ready to party. My wife is incredibly sexy when she dresses it up and her sister is gorgeous along with her friends. Has anyone experienced what I feel?
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May 12th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
I think you are probably letting your imagination run away with you.
you sound like a sensible chap and Im sure im not saying anything you dont already know, but if a man or women is going to cheat they will cheat regardless of being goaded.
I am mother of one age 30 and if you have young children Im guessing your wife is not going to be getting so out of i that she does not know whats happening.
And lets be honest we all know that the people who blame infidelity on the booze are full of Shite and they are just cheating twats.
Im sure if your wife is sexy she will be talked to by men but if she loves you and her family then a polite chat is all it will be im sure.
If you really believe in your hart of hart what you are saying above then you are saying you think your wife has not got a mind of her own and is week spirited and does not care about her family unit nor does she respect or really love you!
and as for you thinking your wife is naive if she is sexy and 33 I doubt she is naive unless she was brought up in a nunnery, just because some one is kind harted and trys to see the best in people because they are a positive person does not mean they will go out and snog the face off a bloke coz a 20 something said so.
Frankly if my husband said to me that I would be very insulted and think that he though very little of me.
Your wife is a married 33 year old women with children not a 19 year old with no responsibility and no life experience. give her a brake
May 12th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
If you are wondering about this, then your marriage is NOT rock solid 10 out of 10 as you claim. Rock solid marriages do not fall off of their foundations if one member of the union has a night out on the town with friends.
May 12th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
I’m not going to be there, if that makes you feel any better.
May 12th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
Don’t worry - she seems mature and responsible. Just tell her to call you to pick her up if things aren’t going well….like they want to drink too much.
Women’s bachelorette parties are not as bad as men’s by far. Men’s are disgusting with porn, strippers, etc.
Know that she is obligated to go because it’s her sister’s. So don’t get mad at her.
May 12th, 2011 at 9:40 pm
She is married…Clubs and drinking SHOULD BE OFF-LIMITS!!! This is how TROUBLE BEGINS in good marriages…I don’t understand why there has to be bachelorette or bachelor partys anyway.. The partys should be couples together!!!!! I guess i beleive that when you get married, you have all the drinking and bars out of your system