Comments on: Repost: Ask the tough questions now or wait for hard evidence? http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 23:20:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Jessica C http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2254 Jessica C Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2254 Well man you need to talk to her about it. Sure you may hear something you really don't want but the great things is, once its out there (if theres anything) you and move on from your anxiety and distrust and start to feel much better about the situation and your marriage. It sounds like its totally eating you up inside and you want to do whats right but at the same time you want the truth. Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with her and let her know how you've felt and that you want to know. I don't think she'll lie from what you told us of her so just be honest and see how this works. You will want to know thats for sure so just go with it. Take care! It will be okay! Well man you need to talk to her about it. Sure you may hear something you really don’t want but the great things is, once its out there (if theres anything) you and move on from your anxiety and distrust and start to feel much better about the situation and your marriage. It sounds like its totally eating you up inside and you want to do whats right but at the same time you want the truth. Sit down and have a heart-to-heart with her and let her know how you’ve felt and that you want to know. I don’t think she’ll lie from what you told us of her so just be honest and see how this works. You will want to know thats for sure so just go with it. Take care! It will be okay!

]]> By: thewifey http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2255 thewifey Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2255 just tell her how you feel. waiting is not the answer, it may build resentment and then it will be much much worse!!! just tell her how you feel. waiting is not the answer, it may build resentment and then it will be much much worse!!!

]]> By: Been There~Done That! http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2256 Been There~Done That! Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2256 You should be able to talk to her about how you feel about anything without fear of prosecution or fear of hurting your marriage. Part of any relationship that is going to work, works because you communicate openly and honestly. You accept and you forgive. Don't let the fascination of having the girl of your dreams keep you from having the honest, loving and faithful relationship you are due from being married. God gave us our "gut feeling" for a reason. Think about it. You should be able to talk to her about how you feel about anything without fear of prosecution or fear of hurting your marriage. Part of any relationship that is going to work, works because you communicate openly and honestly. You accept and you forgive.

Don’t let the fascination of having the girl of your dreams keep you from having the honest, loving and faithful relationship you are due from being married.

God gave us our "gut feeling" for a reason. Think about it.

]]> By: pictureshygirl http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2253 pictureshygirl Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2253 You do not have concrete evidence of her cheating, so it would be a sad situation if you acused her of it. I truly feel what you need is reasurance and do not know how to go about asking for it. Whenever me or my husband need reasurance from each other, we simply ask for it by saying, "honey, I need reasurance of your love and loyalty to me"....and it helps. If your doubts about your wife's loyalty is getting the best of you there are ways to approach the subject without actually accusing her. You simply tell her about how insecure you have been feeling and then ask her to reasure you of these insecurities. Or is it that you avoid approaching the subject for fear of opening up a secret you do not want to know about? Your fears may be for nothing or they may be valid, either way you need to get answeres for the doubts you are feeling. You need to be able to open the doors of communication with your wife because leaving things unsaid can only make things worse. You are torturing yourself by dwelling on these doubts that you have. Get some reasurance from your wife. A loving wife would not hesitatle in reasuring her husband. By the way, your wife is a lucky woman to have a man who respects and loves her so much. If she is cheating, she would be foolish to do so. Good luck to you! You do not have concrete evidence of her cheating, so it would be a sad situation if you acused her of it. I truly feel what you need is reasurance and do not know how to go about asking for it. Whenever me or my husband need reasurance from each other, we simply ask for it by saying, "honey, I need reasurance of your love and loyalty to me"….and it helps. If your doubts about your wife’s loyalty is getting the best of you there are ways to approach the subject without actually accusing her. You simply tell her about how insecure you have been feeling and then ask her to reasure you of these insecurities. Or is it that you avoid approaching the subject for fear of opening up a secret you do not want to know about? Your fears may be for nothing or they may be valid, either way you need to get answeres for the doubts you are feeling. You need to be able to open the doors of communication with your wife because leaving things unsaid can only make things worse. You are torturing yourself by dwelling on these doubts that you have. Get some reasurance from your wife. A loving wife would not hesitatle in reasuring her husband. By the way, your wife is a lucky woman to have a man who respects and loves her so much. If she is cheating, she would be foolish to do so. Good luck to you!

]]> By: Tammy O http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2257 Tammy O Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2257 you are a different breed sir, and you clearly love your wife, but in the beginning you stated that the fear of losing her is worse then what she might be doing so the bigger question would have to be even if she answers your question and you hear the unthinkable what are you planning on doing next? Can you live with the fact that she may very well be getting some on the side or do you plan on rectifying a situation that will most undoubtably continue? Now I dont believe that your wife is a bad person far from it, with everything that everybody else does her infracture is minor and besides who am to judge? I hope that when and if you do have this talk that it turns out the way you need it to, but dont wait to long things like these have a way of festering into a fullblown unexceptable squabble you are a different breed sir, and you clearly love your wife, but in the beginning you stated that the fear of losing her is worse then what she might be doing so the bigger question would have to be even if she answers your question and you hear the unthinkable what are you planning on doing next? Can you live with the fact that she may very well be getting some on the side or do you plan on rectifying a situation that will most undoubtably continue? Now I dont believe that your wife is a bad person far from it, with everything that everybody else does her infracture is minor and besides who am to judge? I hope that when and if you do have this talk that it turns out the way you need it to, but dont wait to long things like these have a way of festering into a fullblown unexceptable squabble

]]> By: fnd40 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2258 fnd40 Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2258 The problem here seems to be you, not her. You sound a little whiny, clingy, needy and a touch paranoid. You havn't given one concrete reason why you think she's cheating, and frankly, if this is the way you always behave, I really couldn't blame her if she did. Knock it off. The problem here seems to be you, not her. You sound a little whiny, clingy, needy and a touch paranoid. You havn’t given one concrete reason why you think she’s cheating, and frankly, if this is the way you always behave, I really couldn’t blame her if she did. Knock it off.

]]> By: Emotionless Honda Driver ? http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2259 Emotionless Honda Driver ? Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2259 First of all there is nothing wrong with reposting. YOu get different people answering most of the time. I think you need to catch her if she is. I suggest getting keyloggers and phone records also get a hidden camera and hire some one to follow her..... But the gut feeling is right like 97 percent of the time. Yes sometimes gut feelings can be wrong but they are mostly not I had to follow mine with my ex gf and she was cheating on me. I caught her lol Also avoid having sex in case she is doing another man for you could be at risk of stds Btw dont be afraid to lose her. I was not afraid to lose my cheating ex. When you become afraid you end up being a doormat in the years to come RIght now I think you need to confront her and play dumb. Playing dumb and randomness is another way to catch cheaters. It has worked for me 100 percent of the time. Remember cheaters plan things out but they can not plan on randomness like random stop bys and random phone calls..Things like that. You will throw them off First of all there is nothing wrong with reposting. YOu get different people answering most of the time.
I think you need to catch her if she is. I suggest getting keyloggers and phone records also get a hidden camera and hire some one to follow her…..
But the gut feeling is right like 97 percent of the time. Yes sometimes gut feelings can be wrong but they are mostly not
I had to follow mine with my ex gf and she was cheating on me.
I caught her lol

Also avoid having sex in case she is doing another man for you could be at risk of stds

Btw
dont be afraid to lose her. I was not afraid to lose my cheating ex. When you become afraid you end up being a doormat in the years to come

RIght now I think you need to confront her and play dumb. Playing dumb and randomness is another way to catch cheaters. It has worked for me 100 percent of the time.
Remember cheaters plan things out but they can not plan on randomness like random stop bys and random phone calls..Things like that. You will throw them off

]]> By: Anne I http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2260 Anne I Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2260 Maybe she is different after she comes back from trips away cos she has missed you. I don't think i would say anything unless you had some more proof or defiantly some other signs at least. You are right that if she is not it would change things after you had questioned her. Gut feelings unfortunately are normally correct though so just keep an eye out for now. Maybe she is different after she comes back from trips away cos she has missed you. I don’t think i would say anything unless you had some more proof or defiantly some other signs at least. You are right that if she is not it would change things after you had questioned her. Gut feelings unfortunately are normally correct though so just keep an eye out for now.

]]> By: mikeshere http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2261 mikeshere Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2261 If you feel this way, you have to talk to her. You can not live like this or your feelings will eat you up and you will grow to resent her. Find out what is going on, if she won;t talk about it, go with your gut feelings. They are usually right. If you feel this way, you have to talk to her. You can not live like this or your feelings will eat you up and you will grow to resent her. Find out what is going on, if she won;t talk about it, go with your gut feelings. They are usually right.

]]> By: Genuine_nice_guy http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence/comment-page-1#comment-2262 Genuine_nice_guy Tue, 08 Mar 2011 06:52:50 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/repost-ask-the-tough-questions-now-or-wait-for-hard-evidence#comment-2262 I have to agree with 'thewifey' (above) in that if you do nothing it will just build up in you and burst out in an uncontrolled manner sometime or other and that wont be good at all (and I speak from experience). If she is really that aproachable, you believe you are both very much in love still, and you know she will give you a straight answer, in my mind theres nothing else to do but go for it and ask her. Be diplomatic, but more importantly be prepared for the answer. Dont just think about how to ask her, but how to respond for the best to what that answer might be. Hope that helps dude. I have to agree with ‘thewifey’ (above) in that if you do nothing it will just build up in you and burst out in an uncontrolled manner sometime or other and that wont be good at all (and I speak from experience).

If she is really that aproachable, you believe you are both very much in love still, and you know she will give you a straight answer, in my mind theres nothing else to do but go for it and ask her. Be diplomatic, but more importantly be prepared for the answer. Dont just think about how to ask her, but how to respond for the best to what that answer might be.

Hope that helps dude.

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