pleaaase answer! i dont know what to do..?
Today my friend texted me saying she needed to talk to me when I’m by myself and my boyfriend read it and was like,"what’s that about?" And I was like oh idk and I have a bit of trust issues with him so I kind of wanted to trick him into telling me of he was doing something behind my back, so I was hid my phone from his eyes and I made up that she had said it was about him when it was really about her boyfriend so he was like what the.. and I was like,"why do you have something to hide ?" and he was like no I just want to know what she thinks she has on me and then I was like atleast have the maturity to tell me now rather then hearing it from someone else ans he still said no I swear I have not done anything ..and so we just relaxed and after he left he texted me asking what is was she had to say and i said no she was waiting and he went in the shower and randomly called me which he never does unless I want to talk on the phone because he hates phone conversations and I asked him to tell me the real reason why he called and he admitted to wanting to know what my friend had to say and I questioned why he cared so much and he said he just wanted to know..and so I sort of blackmailed himand I’m not proud of it but I wanted to know , and said that if I had heard he had lied and is doing something behind my back I’d tell his mom he had tried getting my pills which are made with opiates and he has had a previous addiction with heroin so shed be furious, and he still had said no I swear I’ve done nothing. And so I want a cheaters advice if this is a sign of infidelity ?
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Tags: addiction, cheaters, heroin, infidelity, maturity, mom, opiates, phone conversations, pills, quot, real reason, trust issues
March 4th, 2011 at 4:56 pm
You are making you go through hell for absolutely nothing. You are trying to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you or not. You really have it bad when it comes to trusting your guy. And playing games like you are playing to try to find out if he’s doing anything behind your back will eventually ruin your relationship. You need to be able to trust your boyfriend. If you have trust issues with him then you are not in a healthy relationship. So far you have given any signs that your boyfriend is unfaithful to you. Your boyfriend has told you that he has done nothing wrong. If you can’t believe what he tells you then you should not be with him. Your boyfriend has not given you a reason for you not to trust him. If you really love this guy and you want to have a good relationship with him then you need to trust him. A relationship without trust is not a relationship. And blackmailing him is not going to give you the answer that you are looking for. You think that your boyfriend is cheating on you and you want to hear that is what he’s doing. But honey, your boyfriend is not cheating on you. You are letting your imagination run wild and if you continue to do this then you will push him into the arms of another girl. Is that what you want? I think that your boyfriend has been honest with you when he told you that he didn’t do anything wrong. Now it’s up to you to believe him. If you want your relationship to work then you have to start trusting him. You need to trust him until he gives you a reason for you not to trust him. Guys will only put up so much with girls that are insecure about their relationships. You have no reason to be insecure when it comes to your boyfriend. Instead of putting your energy on him cheating put it on your relationship and just focus on how much you love each other.
March 4th, 2011 at 4:56 pm
you need to trust him mor. And learn to communicate with him. And no need to hide things and mess like that. Both of you need to commonuciate if you want anykind of relationship.! Thats what you do. And watch your friend they have a tendency of putting stress on a relationship.
March 4th, 2011 at 4:56 pm
From what you have said it seems like he was way too calm about it all to be lying. I think he kept calling and asking more out of curiosity about what it was he was supposed to have done.
Here is a test. Accuse him of something that you know for fact is not true. See how he reacts. Does he get angry or does he stay calm. Do his eyes stay focused directly on you? Does he move his arms about wildly while trying to convince you he is being honest. Then the next time he lies you will know because he will do the opposite.