Is there any problem with having female coworkers sitting on my lap?at would you like to ask?
I like my girlfriend and we get along very well. But she can’t uderstand that I am of free will and don’t want that she impose me limits. We have parties with coworkers from job, male and female. I like female (as friends) and some of them sit in my lap while talking. No other thoughts still it is nice to feel that coworkers like so much to sit on you. Then my girlfriend found out and "Alleluja" she was angry and furious how can I do such things, touch other women, cuddling them on my legs etc. She believes that only two persons, who love each other, may do that. She looks at it as sign of infidelity. I told her that she is behaving really strange, funny and immature. She doesn’t understand what means friendship beacuse she doesn’t go to many parties and is more asocial, she just wants to be with me and closest frineds. I told her to grow up and get real or she may go. What normal person would have anything against socialising with female coworkers? Isn’t that so? Thank you for answer.
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Tags: coworkers, friendship, girlfriend, infidelity, job, legs, socialising, two persons
December 12th, 2010 at 4:53 pm
I have to say, if I were your girlfriend, I would slap you and call you a jerk.
Tell your co-worker friends to get off your lap because you already have a girlfriend. By the way you put it, I would also call you a playboy.
December 12th, 2010 at 4:53 pm
If you really love her, you wont do things you know hurt her, especially if they arent neccessary. having other women on your lap implies a more intimate relationship. is it really neccessary to have other girls on your lap anyway? think of your girlfriends feelings and dont do things that hurt her. its as simple as that. if you saw her sitting on some guys lap straddling him i can bet you’d find yourself just a little uncomfortable with that. but nonetheless, dont do things to put stress on the relationship if you dont have to. dont think of her requests as limitations, but rather just her way of saying "please dont do that, it worries me and hurts me and makes me feel insecure".
dont you want to make her feel like she’s loved? like shes the only one? like she doesnt have to worry about other women stealing you away?
try to see it from her point of view.
December 12th, 2010 at 4:53 pm
I would be mad about that too. That is for a couple to do. Or a single person to do at least. How would you like it if you saw your girlfriend sitting on another guy’s lap? If you don’t want her imposing limits on you, you better not be imposing limits on her. Socializing and having friends is different than having friends sit on your lap. Unless they are your closest friends and she also knows them, letting someone do that is not right.
Also, I have a problem with "I like my girlfriend" not "I really like" or "love." It makes me think that you don’t care about her a whole lot and that she should leave YOU without you saying something about it first so that she can find someone who actually does care about her.