Is the man who forgives his wife for her infidelity more or less of a "real man"?
I am looking for personal opinions of course. If a man remains true to his wife despite her infidelity and forgives her is he more of a "real" man or less of one? Is his faithfulness to her a sign of weakness or of values and character? I am thinking in terms of a man who can move on if he chooses but does not, rather than a man who has no options. Opinions?
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Tags: faithfulness, infidelity
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
That is why marriage is not for children. It takes a Man and/or Woman to make a marriage work. No one ever said it would be easy, but I believe that they never emphasized enough just how much work it really takes.
I believe that it takes a REAL Man or Woman to stay and face the problems and issues. Remember that there are always to sides to every story, be willing to hear the other side. Be willing to hear why she decided to cheat. If you can listen honestly, then you will be able to make the right decision about whether to stay or to go. True Love is worth fighting for. But trying to make love happen when it doesn’t exist is very tiring.
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this, but take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. You are not the first and i can guarantee you want be the last.
I will remember you and your family tonight when I say my prayers. Good Luck to you and God bless you both.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I know a man who forgave his wife for cheating on him, but she did it again this time with his best friend.
so you can be a real man for the first time, but the second time can make you not feel like a man.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I’d say he’s more of man if this is the first time. If this is a habit of hers, he has issues.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
More of a man, it is easier to cut an run like a baby than stand there and fix your problems. Affairs are never just one person’s fault, the solution has to be derived together.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I would say more.If she does it again,he becomes less of a man.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I would have tremendous respect for a man with that strong of a character. Personally, I don’t think I’m strong enough to do such a thing, if she has decided to move on, I don’t think my pride would let me try to keep her.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Everyone is different, but for me, it would be less of a man. For me, being unfaithful is the worst thing my wife could do to me. Even though I do love her, if she was unfaithful, I could not stay. Being unfaithful just breaks everything, if a person is unhappy in their marriage and they believe it’s beyond repair, then they should divorce, but never cheat.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I think it would depend on the situation
If she had cheated once told you about it and is sincerely sorry I think it takes more of a women to admit it and man to forgive
but if shes off cheating with multiple people and your finding out someother way then i think it could be weakness because if your still with her after all the bs maybe shes a security blanket?
Either way it takes a real man/women to forgive any kind of hurtful act.
Also who you love and how you love them should not show how much of a man you are.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Nooo..
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Maybe you have a different definition of a REAL MAN than I do. A real man supports his wife, values his family, and is generally the ‘head of the home’, that is…making the final decisions about things he and wife talk about. He takes responsibility for everything in his family. Does forgiveness make him a ‘real man’? It depends on what the real relationship is about. She probably sees him as a wimp and will continue to have affairs.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
It doesn’t make you less of a man to forgive your wife for cheating. If she’s really sorry then it’s good you two are moving on. However if she cheats again it’s not a good idea to stay with her. In fact, in my opinion staying with someone who continually cheats would make you less of a man but if it’s just the one time and you want to stay with her, that’s fine.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
If he is confident that she made a one-time mistake and that she is committed to repairing the marriage, he’s very much a "real man." In fact, remaining committed despite the infidelity and pain can be a sign of real inner strength. However, if she has no intention of changing and is still clearly walking all over him, but he just can’t let go, then no.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
David it takes a strong man to do this who has values and character
But your trust in her must be broken it has to be
Because she crossed that line you did,nt ??
I say everyone deserves a second chance
But it will be a long time before the trust comes back
But if the love is still there you are in with a chance to make it work
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I would not consider him less a man, but a man instead with poor judgement.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Yes, he is a man of character if he can forgive the unforgivable.
I don’t know that I could.
But be warned: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Don’t do it again; you won’t like the results.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
It depends to what standards he holds himself up to. He is a real man if he holds his wife to the same standard he holds himself to. So if could have an affair he should be able to forgive, but if he could never have an affair then he is also a man for standing up for what he believes and rejecting her.
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
How can you ever trust her again? Why would you trust her again? How many potential diseases has she brought to your bed? What’s stopping her from cheating on you again? She knows that there are no consequences to her betrayal of you.
My question to you would be, why would you forgive and stay with a woman that doesn’t have any respect for you?
June 28th, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Every person I heard of doing this regretted it…once a cheater always a cheater!