Is she CHEATING??? I found a picture of…?
Girfriend might be cheating…?
Ok, heres the situation:
I am deployed right now, and have not communicated with my gf in a month. In the begining months, we spoke over the phone, over email, and through letters all the time. Now its been quite, and whenever I call, I get no answer–she dosent even email me a reply. So I start investigating…
Our shared netflix account has not been used in over a month–something she has used everday until then. I sent her flowers and called on easter, and still nothing! My family has not heard from her, and I have a really bad feeling overall.
Ok and now facebook:
I find this weird game/survey whatever thing called smileys thats posted on her wall that says the results of what ever she did are "Im feelng naughty tonight!" with a winking smiley face and her comment of "somebody help!!!" this is followed by a new friend named bobby. Then there is a message of her stating that everyone needs to stop being mean and leave her alone. Also on her wall is a change in the "interested in" part of her profile (which shows men now). I look at the top of her profile and her "in a relationship with" part is missing! (yet doent say single/avaliable either).
I go to her pictures and my stomach really sinks.
She has pictures of her, another guy, and this bobby guy (pictures are dated before she had him as a friend btw) at a lake drinking beer.
One picture is of them too laughing which she must have taken. the caption reads "lil bro likes the tit action! he doent blush!" Im like ???
The second is of her SITTING IN HIS LAP with the "bobby likes this" tag on it.
And the third is of her in a bikini posing with her back arched facing the camera and hands behind her head. (yes its pretty provoc)
Also I have asked her to send me things I need/want which she hasnt.
She also used to be bad with drugs before she met me, and Im afraid that makes her suspectable to inflence.
Optimistically, maybe shes just too busy too watch movies (oh we live in the country–not alot of nearby activities), maybe she was just posing for fun (she used to model), and maybe she was trying to take a really close picture with the guy or something.
But I cant get over all this because shes the jealous type and if I did any version of this she would become ENRAGED.
I also looked up the top 10 signs of infidelity and found the previous info to fill in 9 of those.
Am I being paranoid???
Do I exploit this?
Is this obvious or am I over analyzing?
I still have about 4 months to go…not good stress to have on top of whats already going on
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May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Hi, im really sorry, but it looks like she is cheating on you. There is still a chance that she isn’t though, so i wouldn’t take any radical actions until you hear the truth from her. She doesn’t deserve you, anyway, you seem like a good guy that could get better. : D
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
It honestly sounds like she’s ditched you. Maybe you can turn her around, but she doesn’t sound committed to you. :C
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
If she’s ignoring you, then it’s probably over. Sorry man. You trying to contact her all those times and her not responding is not a coincidence.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
you have other things to worry about and thats WAR. it is most certain that she is cheating honey its bad enough she doesnt response to you its worst when your family doesnt hear from her.honey she is cheating and with bobby and whoever
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
If she isn’t responding to you.. chances are she’s trying to get rid of you. I would comment on a picture or write on her wall and ask her to please respond to your emails/messages. I would try to forget about her though.. if she loved you she would be worried about you and she would be trying to keep contact with you as much as possible.
My friend is currently deployed and any time the phone rings I always jump to see if its him because I care about him and am so worried about him.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Man, I would be concerned. If my boyfriend had pictures like that or was taking our relationship status off his page I would be super pissed and worried and hurt. You need to tell her that you guys need to talk, or just champ out the 4 months and go talk to her. This is one of those things you need to speak with her about and it’s especially hard for you I understand, but must be done. If she says it’s nothing and has a perfectly legitimate excuse, you need to tell her that it’s not acceptable behaviour.
I hope things go well for you (L)
please answer my relationship question? it’s short!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110502173053AAXSN9z
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Its nice that you try to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she hasn’t talked to you in a month, and you’ve noticed all of those changes.
I hate to say this, but I believe shes moved on, and is now flirting around with that Bobby guy, or with a bunch of guys.
I say send her a farewell e-mail, and then contact your family and tell them what happened and ask them to send you all of the things you need.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
she might be, but a lot of girls like to flirt, and don’t even know that they are doing it. but sitting on his lap, and taking pictures and not answering any of your calls or messages? yeah thats a little crazy. don’t wait for her to break up with you! whats the point in that? end it before she does, tell her u know what shes doing and i bet you can find someone way better. i hope it works!
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Ya ha I would say pretty shure But
Soon you will be out and looking buff with some cash in hand so block her number and block her on facebook. you need to talk email me
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
I hate to bearer of bad news, but your insticts rarely lie to you. From your side of the story,(and there is always 2 sides), i’d say she has turned her interest somewhere else. This is not uncommon for men or women in the service. i remember staying back from field exercise and going out to the club and seeing all the wives of the men in the field out with other men. Not a good thing. I would not write or email or do anything for a while and see if she does. If she does she will be wondering why you havent and ask. Tell her the truth. If she does not then you will know. Good luck.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
theres no use stressing over stuff on facebook. things can look drastically different than what is actually going on. it sounds like there is a chance she is, but there is no way to know for sure. its just as likely this bobby is just a new friend, or gay even (kinda goes along with the ‘tit action/doesnt blush’ caption).
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
why ru still going out with her!!! DUMP THAT CHEATER HARD
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
yes you should break up with her and live your life
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
The fact that she hasnt respond to you makes me think she might of found someone else.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Reading that question was very hard. I feel for you man, but I’m sorry to say that she just might be. I’ve been in many relationships, and its taught me to always prepare for the worst. If she’s cheating or not, think about how you’re going to move on and plan your life without her in it.
If this situation is causing you a lot of stress, then you should leave her. It doesn’t matter if she isn’t cheating, she shouldn’t make you feel this way with no explanation. You said that if you did any of this she would become enraged, no offence but this girl sounds hypocritical, selfish, and inconsiderate, trust me you don’t want any one of those traits in a girl.
But if she is truly a good girl and she explains herself, then you’re relationship with her will only get stronger because she will understand her boundaries and will make up for the pain she caused you. Thats only if shes a good girl, good luck I wish you the best.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
Dude whether or not your girl is cheating, is that really how you want her acting when your gone? But your girlfriend is cheating. Cheating comes form the heart, and we too often define it by one effect. Just like a car accident, it’s not the twisted metal or the broken class that caused the accident, they are just effects of it. If you see your girl doing this stuff in pictures, then she has a cheating heart. To what degree that heart has taken the effects is unknown. But dude she is cheating….
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
That’s what you get for being with a model.
next time go for personality instead of looks.
pretty girls are jerks!
there so many great women out there who don’t get a chance cause they are less then pretty.
May 16th, 2011 at 12:12 pm
She’s gone. Please don’t make this any worse than it already is. Even if you are able to get her back, she will eventually explore her wild side again. Believe me when I say that your situation is not unique. Everyone thinks their situation is unique and others can’t possibly understand the connection you two had before the cheating, and that you can make this work somehow.
Again, even if you do manage to reign her back in, it’s only a matter of time before she’s flirted with and bites the bait so to speak.
There are girls who would never, ever do this. You sound like you deserve one of them. Love will blind you to who she really is, because what you had was so special and unique. But the hard fact is that every relationship that goes down the cheating rode started out with so much promise.
I really think you are going to go against this advice and pursue her anyway. But it will only lead to even greater heart ache then you already have.
There are wonderful, beautiful, faithful girls out there looking for an honest man. Pursue that instead.