Is it necessary to have check on relationship …………?
Many men and women left their spouses unexpectedly leaving them both surprised and devastated,even though there was no signs of trouble, unusual behavior, or infidelity.
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September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
it sure can’t hurt anything
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
People don’t leave unexpectedly. There are always signs. The partner just chooses to ignore them.
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Marriage is a constant work in progress! We must keep on our toes!
An old cliche’:
If you don’t take care of your own, someone else will!
We must make sure to keep our marriage "alive", taking nothing for granted!
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
A little check is indeed necessary on the spouse as also on oneself. It may happen with an individual when he/she starts taking the spouse for granted. For instance, if a husband don’t give any space to his wife and take her for granted, wife may not show any sign of trouble and remain normal, but when she will not bear anymore, she will left with no other option but to leave her husband or look for a support outside the marriage.
Further I will say, there are always subtle signs of spouse’s restlessness and going away emotionally and physically, but one cannot see it or try to ignore them.
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Well even the best relationships need to be nurtured without taking them for granted.
In India as in most nations the older order was - commitment come hell or high water.
These values have changed with changing times.
Like consumerism, relationships too have limited spans and hence the need to nurture these continuously.
Sounds tiring though and also strange - especially to call such relations a relation in the first place.
On the lighter side, Tiger woods is an classical recent example!
Human value of "restraint OR ’sabra’ ", has been replaced by "can buy will buy" and "grab what you desire when you can" as if one is living in a shopping mall of faceless relationships and the faces can be added and replaced at will ! ?
The brighter side of this is the fact that not many go in for this way of living only a few misguided or the ‘neo-rich’ who have not yet reconciled to their status of life.
So take heart, People of the World, but yes irrespective of the above, nurture all your relations parents, spouses, kids, friends even neighbors and any one who you feel will give you happiness and derive it too in the bargain!
Keeping checks mean doubting an all encompassing relationship promised…..!
…and suspicion only leads to paranoia.
Sooo..why spoil your own peace of mind?
Keep nurturing the relationship with love and the other person will see the light of the day. Even if s/he does not see light enough to mend her/his ways, you will see her/his uncharacteristic awkwardness making you strong to decide the future course of action deliberately and finally.
No sleazy story ever ended i the innocent being victimized. The victim unfortunately brings it upon her/himself, initially by wheezing and crying and getting paranoid & latter by being the emotional sufferer. So have a ball, love with abandon and just abandon the creep. DO NOT HANG IN BETWEEN!
Happy hunting!
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Spending some valuable time with family will solve lot of problems.
I don’t think these will happen “unexpectedly.” There will be loads of clues for that in their conversation, activities, everything, the only thing is we failed to notice that and correct that in our busy schedule.
Have a great day
September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
Most people leave when there are unhappy. some people actually tell their spouse that they are unhappy but their spouses ignores them. some people just keep quite about their unhappiness until they leave or decide to find someone else…so yes, a check could be a great thing once in awhile
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September 17th, 2010 at 5:37 pm
If you need to check up on it , there is something wrong. I agree that sometimes out of the blue one party will up and leave the relationship. But the way I see it , there must have been some sign or indication that something wasn’t right. Communication is key!