Is a man who forgives his wife's infidelity a good man or not?
I am looking for personal opinions of course. If a man remains true to his wife despite her infidelity and forgives her is he more of a good man or less of one? Is his faithfulness to her a sign of weakness or of values and character? I am thinking in terms of a man who can move on if he chooses but does not, rather than a man who has no options. Opinions?
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Tags: faithfulness, good man, infidelity
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
You ALWAYS have options.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
It really depends on the situation. I think it takes a strong person to forgive an unfaithful partner though.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
if its the first time then good
if its the 10th time then pretty foolish
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
I guess that would mean he really loves her and really values the relationship. cause i know i would kick any cheater to the curb. i dont play that game. its not like its a hard rule to follow. so idk really. its really more of a personal opinion
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
We all make mistakes. Forgive them and you are good/great character. Letting some one take advantage of the good character is what you have to look out for in the future.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
your to nice for her… but good on you,,, good luck to the both of you..
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
He is a fool that will be duped again!
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Truthfully, for both men/women, I think it takes strength to leave the situation. It is extremely difficult to go through a divorce, to admit that your spouse was unfaithful, to deal with courts and finances, and to try to help your children through the divorce as well.
Staying does not mean they are weak, but I think leaving is not as easy to do as it is to advise.
You can also say, "Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
every situation is different and there are no absolutes
sometimes she deserves a second chance and sometimes its salvagable
look to the reasons for her indiscretion and ask yourself, is she sorry, or just sorry for getting caught
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Sounds like he is a solid character to me. It depends on why this happened of course, and how many more times it is likely to happen. We all make mistakes, and if the marriage was good in all other respects, I’d say to forgive and go on. Too many people tend to throw relationships away that could be saved.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
did she fess up? or did you catch her? if you caught her she will do it again. if she told you before you suspected maybe she saw the error in her ways.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
I think a man who truly loves his wife unconditionally would forgive her infidelity and try to make the marriage work (that is if she wants to make it work as well). It shows strength and good character of someone who believes and honor is marriage vows (for better and for worse). It takes a big person to forgive and move on without resentment.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
I think it is less a sign of weakness or of value and character and speaks more to the situation between husband and wife. Did she ASK for forgiveness and change her ways??? If they are truly working on their marriage then it is not a sign of weakness and one of a tolerant man.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Hes an idiot. Case closed.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
It’s more than this that determines a good person.
Forgiving is very easy. Forgetting is almost impossible.
Once a cheater, always a cheater, might want to consider what you gain by forgiving.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
People will say oh he is a strong man,good character etc etc for forgiving his wife and staying ‘true’ to her.
Bollocks i say ! That man is weak and has very low self esteem.
One of the true measures of a man is letting go of that which you love - THAT IS THE HARDEST THING TO DO !
Staying in such a messed up situation just shows that the man is weak and has no backbone.
That woman probably has no respect for him now.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
I think it all depends on the situation. If the person truly loves the other person, than forgiveness is part of it.
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December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
If the man made a commitment, and sticks to it through one experience as such if the wife behaves in a manner that expresses apology and determination to make it right, then he is a good man for being able to forgive and forget. If he hangs on to it though, or she does it again, the relationships toast and he’d be a fool to stick around if either of those were the case.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
It really depends on the situation. I have known men who really deserved to be cheated on because of their neglect of their wives. Once it happened they woke up. (and visa versa)
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Making decisions based on public opinion? Marry brand of salty snacks.
If he cares how many testicles people think he has, then he is less of a man.
If she is his life, he takes his woman back and doesn’t care what people think.
50% of spouses, men AND women, cheat. Somebody (actually a lot of people) is taking their cheater back into their home. What guy isn’t mentally undressing several women a day but doesn’t act on it? You think she’s thinking of YOU while having sex? We’re not pure…not one of us.
But she HAS to choose you. That’s not optional. No stay if she can’t decide. A lover’s a drug…takes time to shake off the desire. Expect it to take months and some buyer’s remorse because you aren’t perfect compared to a no-responsibility lover.
Get over yourself. Nobody cares if you’re a good man. Nobody really cares about your values or character.
That’s not quite true. A woman that you take back can care. If she can, take her back.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Forgiveness and reconciliation are two separate things. Forgiveness is what a good man does. Reconciliation has more to do with whether or not the cheating spouse will change and make amends.
Do not muddy the waters by thinking that forgiveness MEANS reconciliation. You need to forgive so that you can move on with your life but you cannot always reconcile. Even the Bible allows for divorce when one spouse cheats and the Bible tends to lean toward reconciliation.
My wife cheated, then I cheated… not so much as punishment, but because I no longer loved her and craved connection. In my case, I should have divorced. I was keeping a corpse on artificial life support. The relationship was dead.
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
Godd, Bad, or indiferent? No, he is a cuckhold. that can be a fetish and it could be fun if you both let it. It can also damage your relationship permanently. But you have made him forever a cuckhold. Hope you are happy.
Old Guy
December 17th, 2010 at 2:30 am
No doubt about it, you are a noble man for forgiving your wife of such behavior. However, there is a serious problem at hand that must be dealt with not by yourselves but with a therapist.
I was in a relationship years ago where my gf cheated on me and I held on tightly thinking I am the better person, but the behavior is hard to kick. If she cheats on you again, which she will without a therapy, then you are an idiot.