Comments on: Infidelity in my marriage… move on or at least try? http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 23:02:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: no1advice http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1116 no1advice Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1116 Dear Switzerland, You better get off this fence post your on NOW! You're involving alot of chances of children coming into this convoluted mess you have made for a life. I'm not trying to be mean but you make your choices in life. This idiot you so love who your separated from should have been thrown back years ago. Now you involve innocent men into your life to fall prey to your "back and forth" bs in life. If I could talk to those men I would tell them to run for the hills concerning you. Even if you do FINALLY divorce that idiot you will still probably see him on the side after you start up fresh and new with a different man. I can see you going through this endless merry-go-round with the ex all through life. Sad but true. Why do you do this? Don't you see you deserve better in life than him? He's a cheating low life who gets others pregnant and then professes love to you? Don't you see the forest for the trees? I guess you can't......your one of his trees. Make a change now or forever live this way. Dear Switzerland,

You better get off this fence post your on NOW! You’re involving alot of chances of children coming into this convoluted mess you have made for a life. I’m not trying to be mean but you make your choices in life. This idiot you so love who your separated from should have been thrown back years ago. Now you involve innocent men into your life to fall prey to your "back and forth" bs in life. If I could talk to those men I would tell them to run for the hills concerning you. Even if you do FINALLY divorce that idiot you will still probably see him on the side after you start up fresh and new with a different man. I can see you going through this endless merry-go-round with the ex all through life. Sad but true. Why do you do this? Don’t you see you deserve better in life than him? He’s a cheating low life who gets others pregnant and then professes love to you? Don’t you see the forest for the trees? I guess you can’t……your one of his trees.

Make a change now or forever live this way.

]]> By: spankmaster general http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1117 spankmaster general Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1117 After reading the first 3 lines of your post,it's best if you move on!!! After reading the first 3 lines of your post,it’s best if you move on!!!

]]> By: kpopp http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1118 kpopp Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1118 Whichever guy you'll pick, it will take a lot of work. But whom you pick, is a question that takes an easy answer. You must pick the guy with whom you have the most in common. Like religion, ethnic background, lifestyles and other similarities. Most successful marriages are between partners of similar background. Check out my source. Whichever guy you’ll pick, it will take a lot of work. But whom you pick, is a question that takes an easy answer. You must pick the guy with whom you have the most in common. Like religion, ethnic background, lifestyles and other similarities. Most successful marriages are between partners of similar background. Check out my source.

]]> By: AmBeautiful http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1119 AmBeautiful Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1119 I honestly believe that your marriage won't work. You two seem to have a cat and mouse game going. When he leaves, you chase him, and when you leave, he chases you. I am Christian so I won't encourage you to divorce. I just think that the new guy should not be a factor in your decision to leave your marriage. If you leave, leave because it isn't working. Your husband is a cheater and I have never seen a cheater rehabilitated. If I were you I would take some time off from both guys. It would only be a matter of time before your husband gets someone else pregnant. The new guy, if he is for you, he will be there when you are ready. I honestly believe that your marriage won’t work. You two seem to have a cat and mouse game going. When he leaves, you chase him, and when you leave, he chases you. I am Christian so I won’t encourage you to divorce. I just think that the new guy should not be a factor in your decision to leave your marriage.

If you leave, leave because it isn’t working.

Your husband is a cheater and I have never seen a cheater rehabilitated. If I were you I would take some time off from both guys. It would only be a matter of time before your husband gets someone else pregnant. The new guy, if he is for you, he will be there when you are ready.

]]> By: Lana http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1120 Lana Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1120 Well you keep meeting guys... I guess you are moving on... Well you keep meeting guys… I guess you are moving on…

]]> By: Some Man http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1121 Some Man Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1121 You said you know him better than he knows himself. Make him prove his love to you and just don't let him in just like that. If a man wants someone genuinely, he will use a lifetime to prove his love to you. Make him go though hoops for you before you ever considering opening your heart again. Good luck. You said you know him better than he knows himself. Make him prove his love to you and just don’t let him in just like that. If a man wants someone genuinely, he will use a lifetime to prove his love to you. Make him go though hoops for you before you ever considering opening your heart again. Good luck.

]]> By: Honey http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1122 Honey Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1122 He agreed to sign over his rights so that he didn't have any sort of association with the other woman, and you told him you couldn't do it anymore AFTER that. How come you didn't tell him you couldn't deal with the situation before he decided to give up his rights as a father, to try be a good husband? The women he slept with, he slept with when you were separated. When you're separated, what's the point in acting like you're married if you're not with your spouse? During that separation is when you should've got with the other dude, not when you're trying to fix things. You send mixed signals and you're no more honorable to your vows than he is because you did "other stuff" with the other guy. I think you'd be better off with you and your husband going separate ways but not for the reasons or under the circumstances that you've said because you two share equal responsibility for the way things turned out. Also, I would have a HUGE problem if I were in a situation where my husband got someone else pregnant, and he chose to sign his rights as a father away as he didn't help to bring that child into the world. That child didn't do anything to anyone and he/she deserves to know his/her bloodline. I would have to walk away because of that because he could easily sign his rights away to my child like he did hers. He agreed to sign over his rights so that he didn’t have any sort of association with the other woman, and you told him you couldn’t do it anymore AFTER that. How come you didn’t tell him you couldn’t deal with the situation before he decided to give up his rights as a father, to try be a good husband? The women he slept with, he slept with when you were separated. When you’re separated, what’s the point in acting like you’re married if you’re not with your spouse? During that separation is when you should’ve got with the other dude, not when you’re trying to fix things. You send mixed signals and you’re no more honorable to your vows than he is because you did "other stuff" with the other guy. I think you’d be better off with you and your husband going separate ways but not for the reasons or under the circumstances that you’ve said because you two share equal responsibility for the way things turned out.

Also, I would have a HUGE problem if I were in a situation where my husband got someone else pregnant, and he chose to sign his rights as a father away as he didn’t help to bring that child into the world. That child didn’t do anything to anyone and he/she deserves to know his/her bloodline. I would have to walk away because of that because he could easily sign his rights away to my child like he did hers.

]]> By: Dr. House http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1123 Dr. House Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1123 These guys are not "great". Smart and capable men do not date single mothers. You are being used due to your desperate situation. You are in love with the fantasy of what your life could be like with them not the men themselves - you are still thinking about yourself and what they can do for you not what you can do for them. That's not love. There is something very strongly to be said for getting even so get even if you need to. Then you need to decide if you want to ruin your life or love your husband. "I pray about it and sometimes I feel like God is telling me I have the right to move on, but then sometimes I feel guilty" God would be the force making you guilty. Your selfish Id is telling you to move on. These guys are not "great".
Smart and capable men do not date single mothers.
You are being used due to your desperate situation.

You are in love with the fantasy of what your life could be like with them not the men themselves - you are still thinking about yourself and what they can do for you not what you can do for them. That’s not love.

There is something very strongly to be said for getting even so get even if you need to.
Then you need to decide if you want to ruin your life or love your husband.

"I pray about it and sometimes I feel like God is telling me I have the right to move on, but then sometimes I feel guilty"
God would be the force making you guilty.
Your selfish Id is telling you to move on.

]]> By: mommyto5angels http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1124 mommyto5angels Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1124 move on.. something happened to me but i have 5 kids with my husband.. he did this in 2007 After we got married in 2006. we were high school sweethearts you would think that he would have only want to be with me.. but he got a hickey but says he didn't have sex with her.. how did u find out she was pregnant? or that he had sex with other girls? im still trying to get it out of him.. he wont tell me but i think something else went on.. move on.. something happened to me but i have 5 kids with my husband.. he did this in 2007 After we got married in 2006. we were high school sweethearts you would think that he would have only want to be with me.. but he got a hickey but says he didn’t have sex with her.. how did u find out she was pregnant? or that he had sex with other girls? im still trying to get it out of him.. he wont tell me but i think something else went on..

]]> By: netty http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try/comment-page-1#comment-1125 netty Sun, 25 Jul 2010 17:03:05 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/infidelity-in-my-marriage-move-on-or-at-least-try#comment-1125 I think you are ready to move on. If you have already been with one other guy and now another one in the works, you don't really want to work things out with your husband. And if he has been with 7 other women, forget about it!! A leopard doesn't change their spots. Quit feeling guilty and be good to yourself and your child. Be happy and be with someone that makes you feel good about yourself! I think you are ready to move on.
If you have already been with one other guy and now another one in the works, you don’t really want to work things out with your husband.
And if he has been with 7 other women, forget about it!! A leopard doesn’t change their spots.
Quit feeling guilty and be good to yourself and your child. Be happy and be with someone that makes you feel good about yourself!

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