Comments on: If infidelity is included in the pre-nup agreement? Would you sign for it? http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 22:58:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: SuzyQ http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-441 SuzyQ Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-441 He's the one with the issue. He shouldn't hold you responsible for what happened in his past. My husband got cheated on by his ex and he has never once questioned me or accused me of anything. He never would either. He knows I am me and not her. He loves me and trusts me and his trust is something I will not betray. I love him very much. I would sign this pre-nup (and be a little offended also) but it will make him comfortable. I presume that the assets are split if there is a divorce for "other reasons"?? Read the fine print before you sign. Have an attorney look it over for you. Just need to be careful and look out for yourself. Congratulations! He’s the one with the issue. He shouldn’t hold you responsible for what happened in his past. My husband got cheated on by his ex and he has never once questioned me or accused me of anything. He never would either. He knows I am me and not her. He loves me and trusts me and his trust is something I will not betray. I love him very much. I would sign this pre-nup (and be a little offended also) but it will make him comfortable. I presume that the assets are split if there is a divorce for "other reasons"?? Read the fine print before you sign. Have an attorney look it over for you. Just need to be careful and look out for yourself. Congratulations!

]]> By: lstrickland http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-442 lstrickland Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-442 Sign it. He loves you, he's just insecure. Sign it. He loves you, he’s just insecure.

]]> By: Sandy Ego http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-443 Sandy Ego Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-443 He said "either party"... Sounds like he doesn't trust himself, either? If you're not gonna cheat, you have nothing to worry about - either way, you win. He said "either party"… Sounds like he doesn’t trust himself, either?

If you’re not gonna cheat, you have nothing to worry about - either way, you win.

]]> By: tfblechris http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-444 tfblechris Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-444 He just doesn't want to get hurt again. It seems fair that it states if either party cheats the innocent spouse gets it all. I don't see anything wrong with that arrangement. He just doesn’t want to get hurt again. It seems fair that it states if either party cheats the innocent spouse gets it all. I don’t see anything wrong with that arrangement.

]]> By: Tainted Heart http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-445 Tainted Heart Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-445 If you love him and want to marry him then just sign it. It's not that he doesn't trust you...he is just simply trying to protect himself since it's happened to him once before. If you love him and want to marry him then just sign it. It’s not that he doesn’t trust you…he is just simply trying to protect himself since it’s happened to him once before.

]]> By: ladyindica http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-446 ladyindica Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-446 Watch out. What was it that drove his ex to cheat? In this pre-nup, how is "cheating" defined? Get a lawyer of your own, with YOUR interests at heart. You may be getting suckered. Watch out. What was it that drove his ex to cheat? In this pre-nup, how is "cheating" defined? Get a lawyer of your own, with YOUR interests at heart. You may be getting suckered.

]]> By: redhead27 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-447 redhead27 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-447 I think you are pinpointing your insecurities at the wrong thing here... Its not so much that you should be offended by the fact that he included cheating in the pre-nup... But look at the big picture... him having you sign a pre-nup to begin with should be offensive and show that he does not trust you... He is basically already protecting himself because things may go awry... well just as you said you are confident you will not cheat... what about how confident he is that you both will not divorce???? your pre-nup is offensive in itself... the details of it are only backup I agree with ladyindica... find out what he considers cheating to be before signing. I think you are pinpointing your insecurities at the wrong thing here…

Its not so much that you should be offended by the fact that he included cheating in the pre-nup…

But look at the big picture… him having you sign a pre-nup to begin with should be offensive and show that he does not trust you…

He is basically already protecting himself because things may go awry… well just as you said you are confident you will not cheat… what about how confident he is that you both will not divorce????

your pre-nup is offensive in itself… the details of it are only backup

I agree with ladyindica… find out what he considers cheating to be before signing.

]]> By: consider_this_today http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-448 consider_this_today Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-448 If you wont cheat, then what is your problem with it? To be honest, I think he is a very wise man. Frankly, I would include that in a pre-nup and if the woman had any problem with that clause being in there, she would be gone in a moment. I do not see where you have reason to be offended or upset with that, even if you did not know it was going to be in there ahead of time. Given the way men usually get hosed, even if they did all the right things and played by the rules and it was the women who screwed him over, I have to commend this man. He is not only trying to protect himself but is also protecting you in a way. In all actuality, one should use a marriage contract, listing all the things that both have agreed are and are not acceptable. This contract should also list the process for addressing grievances and so forth. Hey, it should list about everything, to include how often sex should be expected in the marriage and so forth. And the clause about if a person cheats, the other gets it all, that is a great idea. I would only include one other thing if I were him. That is if you cut him off in order to try to get him to cheat or to make it easy to justify doing so. If you make your spouse go without for little or no good reason, then you are in effect, somewhat tempting your spouse. And to the person who asked why did his ex wife cheat? Gee, I wonder how often you ask a woman why her husband cheated on her? Probably never. Any questions? Consult the following. www.nomarriage.com Visiting this web site just may help you and a lot of the women on here have a better understanding of just why so many of us men think we need to protect ourselves against you. If you wont cheat, then what is your problem with it? To be honest, I think he is a very wise man. Frankly, I would include that in a pre-nup and if the woman had any problem with that clause being in there, she would be gone in a moment. I do not see where you have reason to be offended or upset with that, even if you did not know it was going to be in there ahead of time.

Given the way men usually get hosed, even if they did all the right things and played by the rules and it was the women who screwed him over, I have to commend this man. He is not only trying to protect himself but is also protecting you in a way.

In all actuality, one should use a marriage contract, listing all the things that both have agreed are and are not acceptable. This contract should also list the process for addressing grievances and so forth. Hey, it should list about everything, to include how often sex should be expected in the marriage and so forth. And the clause about if a person cheats, the other gets it all, that is a great idea. I would only include one other thing if I were him. That is if you cut him off in order to try to get him to cheat or to make it easy to justify doing so. If you make your spouse go without for little or no good reason, then you are in effect, somewhat tempting your spouse.

And to the person who asked why did his ex wife cheat? Gee, I wonder how often you ask a woman why her husband cheated on her? Probably never.

Any questions? Consult the following.
http://www.nomarriage.com

Visiting this web site just may help you and a lot of the women on here have a better understanding of just why so many of us men think we need to protect ourselves against you.

]]> By: Onehotmama86 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-449 Onehotmama86 Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-449 I know it feels like this is mistrust but he has been wounded. Sometimes men put themselves out there and when they get hurt it takes awhile for them to really learn to trust again. I would signed it because it lets him know that no matter what you want to be with him and that he can have faith. Tell that no matter if it was written on a piece of paper or not that you would never be unfaithful to him. I know it feels like this is mistrust but he has been wounded. Sometimes men put themselves out there and when they get hurt it takes awhile for them to really learn to trust again. I would signed it because it lets him know that no matter what you want to be with him and that he can have faith. Tell that no matter if it was written on a piece of paper or not that you would never be unfaithful to him.

]]> By: SCruzMom http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it/comment-page-1#comment-450 SCruzMom Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:12:13 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-infidelity-is-included-in-the-pre-nup-agreement-would-you-sign-for-it#comment-450 Because it goes both ways in that clause, I'd sign it if I were you, unless there are other parts of the agreement that are questionable. I would still definitely have my own attorney go through the contract with a fine tooth comb to make sure it's all good. Best of luck! Because it goes both ways in that clause, I’d sign it if I were you, unless there are other parts of the agreement that are questionable. I would still definitely have my own attorney go through the contract with a fine tooth comb to make sure it’s all good.

Best of luck!

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