Comments on: If a co-worker said this to you, how would you handle it? (infidelity question)? http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 22:57:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: life coach http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1084 life coach Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1084 Ignore it. That guy is a grown man. He has to answer to himself in the end. Ignore it. That guy is a grown man. He has to answer to himself in the end.

]]> By: Vulken http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1085 Vulken Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1085 Call the guys wife. Call the guys wife.

]]> By: Shar B http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1086 Shar B Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1086 Next time any fellow soldier offers to show your husband a picture of his "girlfriend" although married, your husband should simply say "No". If they ask why, he can tell them he doesn't respect people who cheat on their spouses. He needs to let them know where he stands. In time the word will get out and they won't bother him anymore. Next time any fellow soldier offers to show your husband a picture of his "girlfriend" although married, your husband should simply say "No". If they ask why, he can tell them he doesn’t respect people who cheat on their spouses. He needs to let them know where he stands. In time the word will get out and they won’t bother him anymore.

]]> By: Marilyn http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1087 Marilyn Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1087 typical military guy. just try to ignore him. typical military guy.
just try to ignore him.

]]> By: DM http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1088 DM Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1088 All you husband can say is that it's not a choice he would make. (if the guy brings it up again) All you husband can say is that it’s not a choice he would make. (if the guy brings it up again)

]]> By: Sarah Dean http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1089 Sarah Dean Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1089 My husband is in the military too, and he and I have found this is an issue with many military men. Finding out someone who is married is cheating and not knowing what to do. If I was friends with his wife I would get proof and tell her. But if I was your husband I would ignore the guy. Eventually, the guy will ask what is up and I will tell him I don't approve of you cheating on your wife and I don't want any part of it. I would also make it clear to my co-workers that I don't want to know about things like that and if they insist on telling me then I insist on them not talking to me. I have seen what can happen when someone messes in another person personally life or marriage. Nothing good comes of it, peoples feelings get hurt worse, friends and relationships are lost, and the pain can last for a while. I had a friend who was engaged and living with her guy. They guy was not just my friend but my cousin, and she didn't know that. She was cheating on him and didn't hide it from any of her girlfriends. When I found out I had to tell him, next thing I know she was calling me a "lying, jealous bitch who was the cheater and just after her man." Of course when she found out we were cousins the end part changed, but she started so much crap about me and it changed so many of my friendship. I had known this girl since we were 3 and it hurt me real bad to lose her. I hope by telling you this it will help you better understand why I gave the answer I gave. My husband is in the military too, and he and I have found this is an issue with many military men. Finding out someone who is married is cheating and not knowing what to do. If I was friends with his wife I would get proof and tell her. But if I was your husband I would ignore the guy. Eventually, the guy will ask what is up and I will tell him I don’t approve of you cheating on your wife and I don’t want any part of it. I would also make it clear to my co-workers that I don’t want to know about things like that and if they insist on telling me then I insist on them not talking to me. I have seen what can happen when someone messes in another person personally life or marriage. Nothing good comes of it, peoples feelings get hurt worse, friends and relationships are lost, and the pain can last for a while. I had a friend who was engaged and living with her guy. They guy was not just my friend but my cousin, and she didn’t know that. She was cheating on him and didn’t hide it from any of her girlfriends. When I found out I had to tell him, next thing I know she was calling me a "lying, jealous bitch who was the cheater and just after her man." Of course when she found out we were cousins the end part changed, but she started so much crap about me and it changed so many of my friendship. I had known this girl since we were 3 and it hurt me real bad to lose her. I hope by telling you this it will help you better understand why I gave the answer I gave.

]]> By: kanga http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1090 kanga Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1090 I think your husband it awesome! A lot of guys would have just played along like it was cool. Your husband must really be a good man. I would say just ignore it. I dont think he should ignore him, but just pretend like that situation never occurred. Like you said, he has to work with this douche for the next 2 months, so no need for any problems or awkwardness, ya know? Now obviously I dont suggest he goes out for drinks with this man, but just that he kinda lets this go. Try to look at it like this guy is just a man that has different values then him, and agree to disagree on it. (not that this man has any values, obviously, but treat it like that type of situation) Good luck, and hang on to your awesome hubby!!! I think your husband it awesome! A lot of guys would have just played along like it was cool. Your husband must really be a good man. I would say just ignore it. I dont think he should ignore him, but just pretend like that situation never occurred. Like you said, he has to work with this douche for the next 2 months, so no need for any problems or awkwardness, ya know? Now obviously I dont suggest he goes out for drinks with this man, but just that he kinda lets this go. Try to look at it like this guy is just a man that has different values then him, and agree to disagree on it. (not that this man has any values, obviously, but treat it like that type of situation)

Good luck, and hang on to your awesome hubby!!!

]]> By: lovin'.life http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1091 lovin'.life Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1091 hmm. I know several people who have been kicked out of the military for just this thing. I hope he gets caught, and his wife and children get lots of money from him. hmm. I know several people who have been kicked out of the military for just this thing. I hope he gets caught, and his wife and children get lots of money from him.

]]> By: Starling http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1092 Starling Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1092 Your husband can tell his fellow military member that he doesn't condone nor appreciate adultery. Putting it in terms like that brings up thoughts of the UCMJ violation (Article 134) for Adultery. Other Soldiers/ Sailors/ Airmen/ Marines will think twice before bring up their debaucherous acts in front of him, as they should. This is behavior that is unprofessional and brings a discredit to the military service. Your husband can tell his fellow military member that he doesn’t condone nor appreciate adultery. Putting it in terms like that brings up thoughts of the UCMJ violation (Article 134) for Adultery.

Other Soldiers/ Sailors/ Airmen/ Marines will think twice before bring up their debaucherous acts in front of him, as they should. This is behavior that is unprofessional and brings a discredit to the military service.

]]> By: chandan roy http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question/comment-page-1#comment-1093 chandan roy Sat, 17 Jul 2010 16:33:26 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/if-a-co-worker-said-this-to-you-how-would-you-handle-it-infidelity-question#comment-1093 Sorry Madam you should have been more intelligent. This is a man's psychology. Your husband is afraid of losing you and so all the story of imaginary friend cheating his wife. You simply say that you don't think that cheating on wife is wrong & you want to meet this person. The next surprise you will get is the confession from your husband that there is no such friend and actually he himself is having a girlfriend but he loves you very much and does not want to lose you. So just to test your reaction to such situation he created the story. My advice is that you pardon your husband as wifes are more important to men than girlfriends. Wife means family & love but girlfriend only means fun & sex nothing else to a man. Sorry Madam you should have been more intelligent. This is a man’s psychology. Your husband is afraid of losing you and so all the story of imaginary friend cheating his wife.
You simply say that you don’t think that cheating on wife is wrong & you want to meet this person.
The next surprise you will get is the confession from your husband that there is no such friend and actually he himself is having a girlfriend but he loves you very much and does not want to lose you.
So just to test your reaction to such situation he created the story.
My advice is that you pardon your husband as wifes are more important to men than girlfriends. Wife means family & love but girlfriend only means fun & sex nothing else to a man.

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