I think my mom is cheating on my dad…?
About 3 weeks ago, my mother starting acting completely different than she ever has. Before all of this, she acted like she hated to be alone, now she acts like she never wants to spend time with anyone in my family. Instead, whenever she has free time, she spends it, supposedly, with either my cousin, or her best friend. One thing I find particularly alarming about these trips is that she almost always seems to buy something from Victoria’s Secret whenever she goes out. She has terrible mood swings all the time, and snaps at me, my brother and father all the time. She’s started acting overly concerned about her figure, and has since gone on a diet, and begun exercising. Every night, when my father goes to bed, she stays up for another 3-4 hours talking on the phone with her best friend, she claims, and in the past few days, has completely stopped sleeping in the same room with my dad, blaming it on his snoring. To top all of this off, she told me today that she just doesn’t love my dad anymore, and that they just can’t seem to work it out. That she would feel this way angers me more than I can put into words. Last year, my dad lost his job, and worked out of state, away from all of us, for almost the entire year, just to support us. I’ve confronted her about her unusual behavior many times, and she always blames it on something else (Menopause, reaction to medicine, lack of sleep, etc.). I believed her at first, but now that her story keeps changing, I’m having serious doubts that she’s telling me the truth. I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid, or if these truly are signs of infidelity. Please, if anyone else has ever had to go through this, let me know if it sounds like she’s cheating, and if so, what I should do to deal with it. I don’t want my family to fall apart, but it feels like it’s getting closer to that point everyday…
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Tags: angers, best friend, brother, cousin, dad, diet, doubts, few days, free time, job, lack of sleep, medicine, menopause, mood swings, signs of infidelity, sleep, snoring, telling me the truth, unusual behavior, victoria s secret
February 4th, 2011 at 7:21 am
I’d say why bother? Let your mother live her life; if she’s happy cheating you should be happy for her, but again - this is not your business, is someone else’s.
February 4th, 2011 at 7:21 am
oooh…. Well. They could actually be talking about things when you are not around, and are getting ready to separate. If not and you feel your father is completely oblivious to the fact, maybe you should say something to your mother about what she is doing in front of your dad for ex: "WHy are you always out so late lately?" This will trigger in your fathers head, and he’ll (hopefully) take it from there when you make your quick get away!
February 4th, 2011 at 7:21 am
Your Dad had to be away from his family for a year in order to support your family. He is surly to be thanked. 1. It sucks to be living out of a suitcase basically. and 2. Your Mom went a year without the regular loving touch of your Dad. This may have caused her to seek it elsewhere. Not good. Also, maybe not true. Can you see on her caller id who she has been talking to? Can you look at her cell provider call list online? Her best friend or your cousin may be more open about it than your mom … esp. your cousin …
February 4th, 2011 at 7:21 am
i know u would like 2 solve this prob. but its not ur prob. it between ur parents. u need 2 get a grip on ur own life’ and let ur parents work out their probs. no matter what happens between them . ur still gonna have ur own life, that excludes them.