Comments on: I just posted the infidelity q, and thanks everyone, i didn't excpect ne1 2 answer,and quick -more info?

By: Sue C

Sue C — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:11:46 +0000

I would NOT stay w/ANYONE who is cheating on me. I don’t know if he’s doing it now, or did it in the past & it’s all over & done with. IF your relationship has gotten better, the two of you are getting along better, then go on from here. But if you feel it’s still going on, I would NOT put up w/it as it’s NOT going to end. I held in w/an "ex" for 12 yrs. "hoping" it would get better…WRONG! It did not get any better & he still kept cheating. I finally got the courage to tell him NO MORE, to move on, he was NOT coming home back to me again. That was 25 yrs. ago, I have not heard from him since. I did find out he divorced me w/o me even knowing it! I got a copy of the "raised seal" divorce papers after I sent them a ck. for $10 back then. I am finally happy & have been ever since I got the courage to end it once & for all. Don’t ever settle for less. He is not worth it, & you deserve far better. Do NOT accept the unacceptable. There is NO reason to do so. You CAN find happiness, you CAN make a whole new beginning for yourself. Put the past in the past & leave it there. Start a new beginning for yourself & your kids. You CAN do it if you make up your mind to it. Just MAKE SURE you do NOT have unprotected sex & be careful…best to you…:)

By: Mimi

Mimi — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:11:46 +0000

he "only made out"? what are you waiting for? Him to have kids with her? and why are you sending invites to his mistress? Pack your stuff and leave this douche bag already.

By: Smiffy

Smiffy — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:11:46 +0000

You might think about leaving and finding someone who cares about YOU. Protect yourself too if and when you’re intimate.

By: First NameLaura

First NameLaura — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 03:11:46 +0000

What is clear is two things
You suspect
He did it before.

If you think something is going on then it probably is.
The question you need to answer is not what to do about him, you can never control or change another person, the question is what are going to do about you.

You have to disentangle yourself emotionally before you get hurt.

One person cannot make intimacy. You cannot make this relationship on your own. You have to find a way to be with your world with out compromising yourself.

You have two children. You must respect their right to a stable home.
You have yourself. You must respect yourself.
You can continue to have a stable home for your children and you can withdraw emotionally and physically from the relationship.

Find a way to honor yourself. If you go against yourself you will suffer.