I am afraid my husband has lost interest in our marriage.?
We have been married near 9 years now and he really does not care to be intimate (in the bedroom) anymore. I read that sometimes this may be a sign of infidelity. I really don’t have any evidence that he is cheating though he had been working longer hours. He always claims to be too tired. One of my friends told me that it may be a sign that he has became gay but I know that is out of the question. I tried to get him to talk about it but he refused. Any suggestions. Thanks.
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December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
divorece him
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
re: I tried to get him to talk about it but he refused. Any suggestions.
…….Get into some counseling or
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=relationship+tips&btnG=Search&aq=f&oq=&aqi=g10
and learn how to talk about things.
Maybe unhappy things have piled up over 9 years and it’s time to sort it all out while you still can….especially if any kids are involved!
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
This happens Lisa, i woldnt be too worried. He probably just workin too hard. you needs to spice it up a bit. candlight and wine when he get home. get some sexy bra and panites to gett him cited. my lady and i watch some porn to get in the moods. there is all sorts of tricks to make him want it like he used too. good luck.
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
the "too tired" is almost always an excuse here. Somethings up. Trust me, i m a man and sex relieves stress. So even if he is "tired", he should be dying to ***** (mind). I think somethings up but dont take anyones advice here. You got more info, info which is instict and which u cant explain here. What does ur gut tells u? Listen to urself and only urself. Friends will f**k it up whilst trying to help. No one knows him better than u do. Not even he himself.
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Some men can be tricky. A lot of people jump to infidelity right off the back cus it makes the most sense. Yet that is not always the case. It could be a number of things, he could be depressed, stressed or even just not in love anymore(worse case) but you need to just tell him how you feel. He needs to understand how you feel even if he doesn’t share.
Then after you’ve said your peace to him. Start doing things that make you happy. Workout, change your hair, or whatever will make you feel better.
Then see if he notices or if anything has changed if not move to the next step "counseling" let him know that you can’t go on living like this and if he doesn’t try to change then you need to decide if you want to be there.
I know its not what you want to hear but there is no magic answer that anyone could give you. He is the only one who will ease your pain. Make sure you remember that.
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
I’ve been married for 5 years. Yeah, I admit, guilty as charged, sex life really slowed down, mostly being my fault.
I still love my wife, I’d NEVER cheat on her, I’m still attracted sexually to her, so you may ask… why have I stopped?
Well, first of all, yeah, I’m a bit tired from work. But that’s not all of it.
She kind of stopped provoking me and sex turned out a bit boring. I’m sorry, I can’t get in the mood if we do it the same day, at pretty much the same hour and in the same way. It’s starting to look like some kind of appointment.
And second… why does she expect me to get into the mood all by myself? All I need is for someone to "start" me up a little bit… Then, no worries, I know how to turn on the fire for both of us.
Or at least tell me you need it, but, hell, don’t make it sound like I’m being accused of not doing my duty. This ain’t work, and frankly, you sound like I’m on some kind of deadline.
"We hereby announce you that you have neglected your husband duties and failed to achieve the mandatory orgasm per month quota. this court finds you guilty and sentences you to 10 years of hard labour in the kitchen"
Hell of a way to tell me you miss me
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
you two need a intimate vacation alone together away from work stress and kids
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
I went through the same a few years back and after counseling and the whole nine yards he was arrested soliciting sex in a men’s restroom. My whole family was shocked, he’s not even Republican. To make a long story short we divorced and last I heard he was in Key West.
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
he might have just lost the sex drive. i have been married for 13 years and my wife (who I know would never cheat) has no sex drive. I hardly get any sex any more and when it does happen i have to initiate and she makes it seem like a big chore….i hope that helps.
****I LOVE SWEET MILDRED..YOU WILL LOVE HER WHEN YOU SEE HER IN THE PLAYPEN***
December 10th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
I don’t mean to sound cruel but have you considered a new hair style and/or plastic surgery?