How to get rid of an EX-girlfriend of my husbands?
I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and his ex just appears occasionally and i’m sick of it. I do trust my husband but with all the garbage I watch on tv about infidelity, it kinda gets to me. She lives across the country, so there’s no way they’d ever see each other, except for when we do visit his family, she’s right down the road from them. About a year into our relationship, he went to visit his family for a month and he did confess months (maybe even a year later) that he went to the movies with her and all they did was kiss each other on the cheek. That was 7 years ago, there havent been any signs of her again up until now. She found him on facebook and tried adding him 3 times, also sent him messages asking why he won’t accept her and thought they were eon good terms and could be friends. He told me that shes contacting him and he showed me the message and he just said he’s going to ignore it and hopefully she’ll go away. Well a week later, she writes him again explaining that she doesn’t understand why he wont accept her as a friend on facebook and did the pity pity me story. I wish this didnt bother me but it does and she’s really p!$$ing me off, I just want her to vanish somewhere and quit bothering my husband.
Should I get involved in Facebook and talk to her or should I just leave it to my husband and let him deal with it?
the movies has always sounded fishy to me too but it was 7 yrs ago, its hard to bring that all up again since I forgave him for it then….i was thinking about contacting her myself just to ask about that day but I dont know if I can trust her and I really dont know how to ask her…
he told me because he knew i’d probably find out since we share almost everything on this computer…if i found out and he didn’t tell me, i would have killed him!! it would have been ugly!
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Tags: 8 years, cheek, facebook, garbage, infidelity, ing, pity pity, relationship, signs
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Is there a reason that he can’t write her and say, "Look, Jane, I’m married, and I really wish you would please stop contacting me."
I had a guy from my past look me up on facebook a couple of weeks ago and I told him that I have a wonderful man in my life and that I didn’t think it was a) a good idea or b) appropriate to ‘hang out’. He was nice about understanding my position and has left me alone. I told my man everything because I want him to trust me. Your guy is doing the same thing, and you should TRUST HIM.
You contacting her would only make you look weak and insecure - not the best thing for his ex to think of when she thinks of you. Not only that, but if you call her up and ask her about the movies after SEVEN YEARS, you’ll undermine your husband and everything he has done to build your trust in him. When he finds out (and he will), this is what he’ll say: "WHAT !?!! You couldn’t leave it alone, could you? What were you thinking, calling her? Do you not trust me?? What lies did she tell you?" NOTHING good can come from you contacting her.
PLEASE - I’m begging you. Let him handle it … but you might ask him why he hasn’t lowered the boom. If he says he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings, give him ‘the look’ and ask him ‘but baby, what about my feelings?’ Then go over to him and give him a nice, hot sexy kiss that lasts longer than 10 seconds, and while you’re kissing him, give him a nice squeeze somewhere that he’ll appreciate. THAT is how you get him to see things your way.
Now, go find him, you hot sexy thing
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
I think the whole "he went to the movies with her" sounds a lot fishy. Sounds like something happened and she keeps trying to contact him because of that.
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Why doesn’t he email her that he is happily married and does not think that it is appropriate for the two of them to keep in touch out of respect for his wife and their marriage.
And then block her from everything..facebook, email, cell phone, home phone.
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Just tell him to block her. If he blocks her, that will make his profile invisible to her. That way she can’t even try to contact him anymore. If he won’t do it then you should. Just go into his account and block her, tell her to back off and block her. There is no reason for them to be talking.
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
let him handle it. he dont sound interested in her anyway.
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
i think something did happen between them..the first red flag that went up for me while I was reading your post is why would your husband (or any man) bother to tell his wife an ex GF was sending him messages over FB it was nothing he would not have bothered to tell you unless he trying to be one step ahead of something….this is just my own women inutiton
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Honey, yes get involved on FB!!! Send her a nice little message stating this is (your name) and I am (his name) wife. I would appreciate if you would not contact us by the way of FB, yahoo. or whatever. I know you and ?? went to the movie together and kissed. I have forgiven him and we do not wish to have you in our lives. Tell her this is OUR FACEBOOK and NO we don’t want to be your friend.WE SHARE EVERYTHING!!!! Or//Have your husband send the same message and tell her he would appreciate if she will not contact him in any form because it upsets wifey. If he respects you and have no dealings with this young lady he should be able to handle it as well. Please don’t be surprise if she has a come back for you…and him..He may not be telling you the whole truth.
April 14th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Just from reading your main question….you shouldn’t get rid of her. He should have done that before you got married.
He’s the one who is pissing you off. Once he tells her how things are and that he wants nothing more to do with her…..and means it then you won’t have a problem.