Comments on: How should I approach this marital issue? http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 22:48:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: blueberry http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2121 blueberry Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2121 you're married to a 17 year old? you’re married to a 17 year old?

]]> By: colostomy_punch http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2122 colostomy_punch Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2122 I would definitely be suspicious. Her excuses about the picture (the frame needs to be smaller, saying you look fat, etc) are ludicrous. I'm sorry but there is clearly something going on if she wants to hide all signs that she's married (even though I'm sure her colleagues know she is.) If she isn't already cheating she's at least having an emotional affair. I would definitely be suspicious. Her excuses about the picture (the frame needs to be smaller, saying you look fat, etc) are ludicrous. I’m sorry but there is clearly something going on if she wants to hide all signs that she’s married (even though I’m sure her colleagues know she is.) If she isn’t already cheating she’s at least having an emotional affair.

]]> By: elven_rangers http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2123 elven_rangers Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2123 All I can say is ... talk to her. You should know her better and tell whether she lies or not, if what she says is plausible in the context of your relationship. Don't think you can ask someone to judge this online. Speaking for myself, I values these little things a lot and though I wouldn't be alarmed or scared of infidelity, I would definitely be seriously bothered if a male friend of my girl would send "love" in cards( greetings, sms, email, whatever), mostly because we always use this concept of love with care and reverence and always in the context of us. I don't use 'love' towards anyone else (including family) and neither does she. I would remove her image from the places where I keep it regardless of situation ... and neither would she. Though it happened a few times, I just talked to her and I was reassured, it always helps to talk in order to dispel the possible bad meaning of a gesture (like I said, I don't suspect her, but I do value the details a lot). It's ok to feel bothered by these things, but in the end, if you love her ... then you should always at least offer the benefit of a serious doubt and a chance to explain. All I can say is … talk to her. You should know her better and tell whether she lies or not, if what she says is plausible in the context of your relationship. Don’t think you can ask someone to judge this online.

Speaking for myself, I values these little things a lot and though I wouldn’t be alarmed or scared of infidelity, I would definitely be seriously bothered if a male friend of my girl would send "love" in cards( greetings, sms, email, whatever), mostly because we always use this concept of love with care and reverence and always in the context of us. I don’t use ‘love’ towards anyone else (including family) and neither does she.
I would remove her image from the places where I keep it regardless of situation … and neither would she. Though it happened a few times, I just talked to her and I was reassured, it always helps to talk in order to dispel the possible bad meaning of a gesture (like I said, I don’t suspect her, but I do value the details a lot).
It’s ok to feel bothered by these things, but in the end, if you love her … then you should always at least offer the benefit of a serious doubt and a chance to explain.

]]> By: Naeem http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2124 Naeem Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2124 Whoa thats a hard 1. Follow ur 1st mind. N go with that. Try not 2 make 2 much if. Cuz whn u look 4 something u find it. N u dnt need 2 look 4 that unless u really feel as if its that bad. Whoa thats a hard 1. Follow ur 1st mind. N go with that. Try not 2 make 2 much if. Cuz whn u look 4 something u find it. N u dnt need 2 look 4 that unless u really feel as if its that bad.

]]> By: avi http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2125 avi Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2125 Wow, I'm sorry, Jack, but you would drive me crazy. I occasionally spend the weekend with a single male friend of mine and my husband smiles and says, "Have a nice time." I'd say my husband might have a reason to be suspicious, if he were the suspicious type, but you are getting all worked up because your wife signs cards with "Love." AND you actually made a big deal out of it with her. Pull yourself together, man. Wow, I’m sorry, Jack, but you would drive me crazy. I occasionally spend the weekend with a single male friend of mine and my husband smiles and says, "Have a nice time." I’d say my husband might have a reason to be suspicious, if he were the suspicious type, but you are getting all worked up because your wife signs cards with "Love." AND you actually made a big deal out of it with her. Pull yourself together, man.

]]> By: Lisa M http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2126 Lisa M Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2126 This is a very sensative situation. I would approach with caution. I would confront with caution but not to where she would be on the defence. Since your first wife cheated on you, you are very aware of the signs. I would let your wife know that if she was to ever cheat, it would be over and no second chances. She may not be cheating physically but may be interested or tempted to cheat. Since she must be aware of the infidelity of your first wife, I would tell her very plain what you are seeing and how it is affecting you. A wife worthy of you will steer clear away of all perception of cheating or being involved. A wife worthy will have your pic/name plastered all over her work area and even special things you've given her. I hope the best for you. This is a very sensative situation. I would approach with caution. I would confront with caution but not to where she would be on the defence. Since your first wife cheated on you, you are very aware of the signs. I would let your wife know that if she was to ever cheat, it would be over and no second chances. She may not be cheating physically but may be interested or tempted to cheat. Since she must be aware of the infidelity of your first wife, I would tell her very plain what you are seeing and how it is affecting you. A wife worthy of you will steer clear away of all perception of cheating or being involved. A wife worthy will have your pic/name plastered all over her work area and even special things you’ve given her. I hope the best for you.

]]> By: Angel's Wings http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2127 Angel's Wings Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2127 I would say that your wife needs to be more diligent in putting up boundaries between herself and her co-workers. It is very hard for women to do this without being intentional about it. You may consider having these two men and their wives over for dinner one evening and see how they all interact together, and it will give the wives of these men a chance to do the same. Also, if your wife forgets about cards again, ask her not to give one until you have a chance to sign it yourself. In the meantime, try to get away for a short vacation with your wife and sweep her off her feet again. After years of marriage, some husbands tend to neglect the small things that women value and some wives see that as neglect...although it's not. Also, consider watching the movie "Fireproof" together and reading the book The Five Love Languages. Best wishes. I would say that your wife needs to be more diligent in putting up boundaries between herself and her co-workers. It is very hard for women to do this without being intentional about it.

You may consider having these two men and their wives over for dinner one evening and see how they all interact together, and it will give the wives of these men a chance to do the same. Also, if your wife forgets about cards again, ask her not to give one until you have a chance to sign it yourself.

In the meantime, try to get away for a short vacation with your wife and sweep her off her feet again. After years of marriage, some husbands tend to neglect the small things that women value and some wives see that as neglect…although it’s not.

Also, consider watching the movie "Fireproof" together and reading the book The Five Love Languages.

Best wishes.

]]> By: divinegeoff http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2128 divinegeoff Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2128 Brother, first you need to know what kind of men does she walk with, 2 is your wife born again? i mean not just been born again but true one in the spirit, then you know what she's up to. Brother, first you need to know what kind of men does she walk with, 2 is your wife born again? i mean not just been born again but true one in the spirit, then you know what she’s up to.

]]> By: ♥QueenOfHearts♥ http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2129 ♥QueenOfHearts♥ Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2129 If you have a bad feeling about this, follow your instinct. Even if she is not having an affair, whether it be physical or emotional, her behavior is inappropriate and needs some explaining. Talk to your wife. After being married 17 years, I'm sure you will be able to get to the bottom of this! Good Luck!! If you have a bad feeling about this, follow your instinct. Even if she is not having an affair, whether it be physical or emotional, her behavior is inappropriate and needs some explaining. Talk to your wife. After being married 17 years, I’m sure you will be able to get to the bottom of this! Good Luck!!

]]> By: Jenny http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue/comment-page-1#comment-2130 Jenny Sat, 12 Feb 2011 06:53:11 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-should-i-approach-this-marital-issue#comment-2130 hun, I don't like my hubby of 2 years very much right now and I don't want a pic of him... but I'd never be unfaithful. Just because that silly love that has a pic in a locket or in a locker in high school isn't there, it doesn't mean there isn't still love. I promise. Good luck. hun, I don’t like my hubby of 2 years very much right now and I don’t want a pic of him… but I’d never be unfaithful. Just because that silly love that has a pic in a locket or in a locker in high school isn’t there, it doesn’t mean there isn’t still love. I promise. Good luck.

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