How do you re-establish trust…?
… in someone who didnt do anything to lose it in the first place?
I have trust issues. This is not new information to anyone who knows me. The problem is that the gentleman i’m in a relationship with is constantly under my scrutenous eye. I am imagining he is showing signs of infidelity, not because he is, but because i’ve been hurt so many times before in my past.
How do i trust him? How do i get over my fears that everyone is out to screw me over? Or am i just gonna push everyone away who gets close to me forever?
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Tags: fears, gentleman, relationship, signs of infidelity, trust issues
March 29th, 2010 at 7:21 am
Loki, the only way over this problem is to seek professional help yourself. This is not your man’s problem, other than he is with you! It is YOUR problem. You have been screwed over, because there is something that is causing you to trust the wrong people. Maybe sexual abuse, maybe an abusive family or alcoholic parent(s). What ever the reason there is a way to identify and correct the behavior. You just can’t do it alone. You can find a therapist that will take payments or state funded therapy, you can (if you are in college) go to a professor of Psychology and talk to that person about what is available in the Psyc dept. for you. You should study on your own as well but do not try to do this on your own…it would probably backfire badly. There is a normal life out there waiting for you! Run for it! Good luck and keep seeking! Nana
March 29th, 2010 at 7:21 am
Aww its a difficult one i know someone with the same problem. I understand it is very hard to get trust back i don’t know if we ever do once it is broken, i think you just have to let go. Everybody cant be the same i thinks its highly unlikely that what happened in one relationship is gonna to happen exactly the same way in the next. If you think something is going on you can make yourself believe it and your behavior starts to push the other person away so actually you make the situation worse. What you have to do is have confidence in yourself because with trust issues and cheating you do start to think there is a problem with yourself and it can knock your confidence badly. Your just naturally trying to protect yourself and your pride from being hurt again. I think most people have been let down by someone they trusted, but if we continue to let it effect every relationship we will only let our self down. good luck
March 29th, 2010 at 7:21 am
The only person who can help you is yourself. I will tell you this though, a person will only put up with so much mistrust before they have enough and leave.
If your man has done nothing to make you doubt him, then don’t