Comments on: How do I respond to my little girl about divorce? http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 22:45:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Desirae http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-2334 Desirae Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:31:04 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce#comment-2334 my parents arent together, and my step dad and mom dont get along. Maybe you should sit ur daughter down with u and her mom and explain the situation, maybe lying to her is the best for now. Just tell her that u two are just taking a break from eachother and that things are gonna be okay. Tell her she is still very important to both of you and ask her how she feels about it. my parents arent together, and my step dad and mom dont get along. Maybe you should sit ur daughter down with u and her mom and explain the situation, maybe lying to her is the best for now. Just tell her that u two are just taking a break from eachother and that things are gonna be okay. Tell her she is still very important to both of you and ask her how she feels about it.

]]> By: kelmace http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-2336 kelmace Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:31:04 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce#comment-2336 You need to talk first with your wife in how you two will approach this with your daughter now and your son later...he will eventually have questions, believe you me! I would think it best to approach without laying blame anywhere or on anyone. Something to the tune of "sometimes people just can't be together". There are tons of websites, books, and the like out there, as unfortunately divorce is just a statistic anymore, but here is a link to a google search for it... http://www.google.com/#hl=en&q=talking+to+children+about+divorce&aq=1&oq=talking+to+chil&fp=Li-R6mbKWrc Good luck to you and your family! You need to talk first with your wife in how you two will approach this with your daughter now and your son later…he will eventually have questions, believe you me! I would think it best to approach without laying blame anywhere or on anyone. Something to the tune of "sometimes people just can’t be together". There are tons of websites, books, and the like out there, as unfortunately divorce is just a statistic anymore, but here is a link to a google search for it…

http://www.google.com/#hl=en&q=talking+to+children+about+divorce&aq=1&oq=talking+to+chil&fp=Li-R6mbKWrc

Good luck to you and your family!

]]> By: 71cooldude http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-2335 71cooldude Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:31:04 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce#comment-2335 Speaking from experience, though it is VERY difficult not to apportion blame, you shouldn't tell your little girl that it is her mother that wanted the split. Just explain that even though you still love her mummy, you aren't able to live together anymore. Try and use an example like if she fell out with a friend at school and they no longer speak and try to show her how it is similar to your situation. Continue to show your love for her and in time, probably in lots of years to come (!) she will understand that it wasn't your decision to part. It would only confuse her right now. Let her discover the truth when she is better able to understand. Children are resilient - my boys were 2 and 5 when my first hubby and I divorced, but they are now happy, stable young men (14 and 16). Try to make your children feel special by telling them that they are lucky to have two homes, two bedrooms, etc., that other children aren't that lucky. Try not to make the mistake of 'buying' your children, i.e., don't buy them expensive pressies in the hope they will like you better, as when you are unable to afford them, they will feel terribly let down. Love and time are the best things you can give them at the moment. Silly I know, but it does help ease the confusion for them and they will eventually accept and settle into a new routine. Good luck hun! Speaking from experience, though it is VERY difficult not to apportion blame, you shouldn’t tell your little girl that it is her mother that wanted the split. Just explain that even though you still love her mummy, you aren’t able to live together anymore. Try and use an example like if she fell out with a friend at school and they no longer speak and try to show her how it is similar to your situation. Continue to show your love for her and in time, probably in lots of years to come (!) she will understand that it wasn’t your decision to part. It would only confuse her right now. Let her discover the truth when she is better able to understand.
Children are resilient - my boys were 2 and 5 when my first hubby and I divorced, but they are now happy, stable young men (14 and 16).
Try to make your children feel special by telling them that they are lucky to have two homes, two bedrooms, etc., that other children aren’t that lucky. Try not to make the mistake of ‘buying’ your children, i.e., don’t buy them expensive pressies in the hope they will like you better, as when you are unable to afford them, they will feel terribly let down. Love and time are the best things you can give them at the moment. Silly I know, but it does help ease the confusion for them and they will eventually accept and settle into a new routine.
Good luck hun!

]]> By: CoolHandLuke http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-2333 CoolHandLuke Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:31:04 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce#comment-2333 You don't need to pull the kids against either spouse. Regardless of how it happened, it happened and that is not the kids fault! Just tell her straight up that you are getting a divorce and leave it at that...when she is older she can ask more questions! You might try and figure out why this happened in the first place! It may not be too late, but you need to stop playing the victim and figure out what is wrong! Divorce is terrible for kids, and even if you have to struggle with your wife for the next thirteen years, it is better for them to have a mom and dad in one house! This isn't just about you two any more...and too many people fail to realize that! You don’t need to pull the kids against either spouse. Regardless of how it happened, it happened and that is not the kids fault! Just tell her straight up that you are getting a divorce and leave it at that…when she is older she can ask more questions! You might try and figure out why this happened in the first place! It may not be too late, but you need to stop playing the victim and figure out what is wrong! Divorce is terrible for kids, and even if you have to struggle with your wife for the next thirteen years, it is better for them to have a mom and dad in one house! This isn’t just about you two any more…and too many people fail to realize that!

]]> By: bon bon http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce/comment-page-1#comment-2337 bon bon Sun, 20 Mar 2011 16:31:04 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/how-do-i-respond-to-my-little-girl-about-divorce#comment-2337 shes eight years old and they understand alot more than we give them credit for you just need to explain to her that over time people change and so does ones feelings,and that it is no longer possible for the both of you to live together due to differences you have and yes you still love her mom but at this time it is best that you separate so you can each have your own space and that everything will be fine.and that you love her.this is all she needs to know everything else shell find out later on when the time comes but will at least not be you who she resents,some things are best left unsaid in a situation such as this.I know its hard but it will work and your daughter will deal with this better than you know. Sorry and good luck hope you find happiness. shes eight years old and they understand alot more than we give them credit for you just need to explain to her that over time people change and so does ones feelings,and that it is no longer possible for the both of you to live together due to differences you have and yes you still love her mom but at this time it is best that you separate so you can each have your own space and that everything will be fine.and that you love her.this is all she needs to know everything else shell find out later on when the time comes but will at least not be you who she resents,some things are best left unsaid in a situation such as this.I know its hard but it will work and your daughter will deal with this better than you know. Sorry and good luck hope you find happiness.

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