Comments on: how can I regain my trust and have a healthy happy marriage?

By: Denmark

Denmark — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

i don’t know about her feeling but she probably love you or at least has feelings about you because she is with you.. but SHE DOES NT RESPECT YOU. and she had many chances to fix that and ti try ti be ok with you, but as far as i can understand, she doesn’t. i see that its very difficult to leave her because you love her, she is ur first real love etc…first of all i think that its not a good idea to cheat her, just for revenge and just to know how it feels to be unfaithful. keep in mind that u r different persons and u r not supposed to be like her and do the same mistakes like her in order to be in your situation and in ur position. keep yourself just like u are, u don’t tell many things about you but as i can see you have some positive characteristics that are difficult to find nowadays. YOU ARE NOT A CHEATER AND U R NOT A LIAR-THAT MEANS THAT U R AN HONEST PERSON. NEVER CHANGE ABOUT ANYONE.she may doesn’t know how much it hurts when someone cheats on you-especially if she was never cheated by someone but i m sure that she knows exactly what she is doing and how bad is to always cheat your husband thats why she was trying to keep it secret etc.. but i think that u did something wrong here: you knew how she was-cheating etc and u married her. i dont tell u that u had to split up with her etc but if you already knew that u had to wait for a couple of years in order to see how everything was going to be and if something was gonna change. you could love her and stay with her -whatever but why getting marry her? after all you are young enough -you have all your life to live.. dont get blind of love-love is the most important thing in the world but KEEP UR MIND ALERT-SO I HOPE TO NOT HAVE CHILDREN WITH HER THESE YEARS AND THEN TO START WONDERING HOW YOU CAN FIX THINGS WITH HER BECAUSE SHE IS A CHEATER. i think that if u really love her give your marriage a chance, tell her that this is her last chance and if anything happens u r going to leave forever. be a little bit suspicious about her and if she keeps cheating on you-then leave her-because u r going to be sad and unhappy forever and later ur children will be in a depressed family. you can also tell her to go (both of you )to a counselor-psychologist to ask for help. i wish you all the best

By: John Archer

John Archer — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

You may have to deal with or move on to another relationship.

By: lkjeeee

lkjeeee — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

I know how you feel, i really do. I have been there. once a partner betrays you its hard to regain trust. I would sit down and talk to your partner about this and if there isn’t any hope of changing i would leave the relationship and move on.

By: myant

myant — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

dont have children first off. you (both) need to get saved… turn your life over to Jesus, let the Holy Spirit reveal the truth to you … you can be given a new heart, a new spirit once you receive Jesus… life is tough with or without Jesus but without Him you have NO hope and No good eternal future. The bible says "God did not give us a spirit (a born again human spirit like Jesus’ spirit He received when He was raised from the spiritually dead) of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind… this is your only hope. http://www.daveroberson.org http://www.garycarpenter.org

By: BlackPhoenix

BlackPhoenix — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

Dude, she’s a serial cheater and she’s not going to change. It takes more than love to maintain a relationship. It also takes trust, respect and selflessness. You don’t trust her (nor would I), she doesn’t respect you and she damn sure isn’t selfless. You guys are done. Find someone who understands what "forsaking all others" means.

By: cardo11

cardo11 — Wed, 16 Jun 2010 02:40:27 +0000

Forgive her for all the wrong she has done. Tell her you forgive her for everything and you are wiping the slate clean. See, what she did will bother her if she knows you forgive her 100%.