Comments on: HELP IM LOOSING IT……..My husband has another child?

By: Darth Lucha!!!?

Darth Lucha!!!? — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

Leave him.
I would.
He hid this from you for soo long.
Get checked for stds
Good luck

By: chikichik

chikichik — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

Wow, this is tough, I am so sorry. You are not acting stupid. I would probably flip too. Like you said, he has dealt with it for a while, but it is all new to you and it seems like he is letting you go through the emotions you are experiencing. As hard as this is, it seems that he does love you and wants to be with you. If you can find it in you to work it out with him then do it. Go to counseling, etc. Whatever you do, try to protect your kids from hearing it all.

By: †Evonne†

†Evonne† — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

There are no words to describe how painful it is.
You just have to figure out what you want to do. Do you still want to work things out or do you want a divorce? Ultimately, adultery are grounds for a divorce. The choice is yours.
This is the time to pray and ask God to guide you. HE will hear your prayers and comfort you. You just have to have faith and believe in Him.
I will also say a prayer for you.

-Psalm 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

By: ladyindica

ladyindica — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

When you go for the big jackpot you could end up losing it all. That’s what your husband needs to learn. The hard way. Leave him and get as much as you can take. Kick him on the way out. Spit on him. He deserves no less.

By: Smilin' Jane

Smilin' Jane — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

Bitterness is the poison WE swallow hoping our enemy will die.

Cry, rage, beat your breast……

…….then forgive your husband.

Get counseling, expect it to take years to get beyond, but realize you have a lot to build on.

To err is human, to forgive divine.

By: PinayAko

PinayAko — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

That is horrible. I’m surprised you have any strength left. That would kill me and just by hearing your post, I feel drained. I hope you make the right decision for you and your family - whatever that is.

By: vote for pedro !!!

vote for pedro !!! — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

Take time by yourself to figure out what to do, Do not throw away what you have, life is never perfect… good luck .

hope all goes well….

By: k k

k k — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

one word DIVORCE!

By: leslie a

leslie a — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

First your husband had another child, now he gave it up completely. He chose to stay with you for 6 years past the time of the affair, it is possible he learned his lesson. If you really do not love him, move on. If you have any love left, have a long talk and begin with no more lies.

By: 025150

025150 — Wed, 04 May 2011 21:21:37 +0000

oh my gosh he is such a jerk! you are an amazing woman and deserve so much better. I’m so sorry that you fell in love with a jerk off one time. But thats in the past. You don’t love him anymore. I know you guys have kids together but the kids can see him over the weekend if they really want to. Why don’t you sign those papers and leave him…You can find your true love the one person that will love you forever and will treat you so much better. The fact that he did not tell you about this is horrible and the worst part is that HE WAS WITH YOU WHEN HE HAD A BABY FROM THE OTHER WOMAN!!!
Leave him and have respect for yourself and a man will find you and will treat you with so much love, passion, and respect. Don’t worry about not finding anyone right for you.