This female is immature. She already knows that she has you whenever she wants you for whatever she wants you for, isn’t that right? But being immature, she doesn’t want to settle down with just one person even if he is the father of her child. She wants what she can’t have and that’s men that have already rejected her.

That says not only immaturity, but insecurity.

If you actually want this female, then you need to take charge of the relationship instead of letting her use you as a flunky. She will NEVER respect and want you as the situation is now.

You have a legal right to see your child. I strongly suggest you go to court to do so. The court will set times and dates when you may see your child and she must comply. This takes the child away from her as a tool she can use to manipulate you. Then you adhere to what the courts have ordered. Don’t play games with her. Don’t let her get away with changing things to suit her time table. You can’t give in to her on any of this or she will walk all over you from that point on.

See her only when it has something to do with your child together. No other time -period. Why? You are showing her she can’t use you anymore. You are showing her your love and respect for yourself is stronger than your desire to be a flunky for her.

What will all that accomplish?

People tend to want what they can’t have so once she sees you mean business and she can’t manipulate you anymore, she may see you with new respect. The immature part of her might want you just because you aren’t available to her anymore. And, if you practive love and respect for yourself, you just might find you actually don’t want her anymore.

But, come what may, take responsibility for your child. Be a good father in all ways. You will never regret it.

Good luck.

From what you’ve said she sounds like a very manipulating woman.

It is admirable that you want to keep your family together but it doesn’t sound like you have a choice as she is always going to be unfaithful. She does not respect you or your feelings and only cares about herself. People have patterns and they do not change.

Be strong enough to get out

sorry that youre kid isnt doing too well , but as for her , she aint gonna change . by any chance is she doing drugs , coz my ex g friend was and i just couldnt change her . shed be nice for a while , then violent and then cheating on me . i got tired .

id say youre so much better off forgetting about her and searching for someone else . shes not gonna change . sadly some people believe in " me first " regardless of how it affects others . you also have a kid with her , right ? im sure the kid wouldnt wonna grow up in the same house with you and youre g friend . the kid will grow up with wrong values altogether coz thats what the kid will be observing from youre g friend .

plus like you said , you work full time , so you cant always keep an eye on her . and any way you can control a kid , but not an adult . she,ll do what ever she wants as soon as youre outta sight . my advice is for you to move on , and very quickly . concentrate on youre kid and forget about her mom .

hoping this advice works out for you . ive been there and im so much better off now , without all the headaches and heart ache i was getting . ha ! my ex g friend even had an affair with my best friend , and she said it was my fault , that id told him it was okay ?@? i asked her " so if i sent a messenger to you , asking you to jump off a 10 storie building , you would ."?@?

wishing you the best , in " moving on ."