Do I have to prove her infidelity in court, or is the mere perception enough?
She exhibits ALL of the classic signs: She dresses sexy (but she is, and she always has), she is working out and has lost alot of weight (she works at a health club), she spends money without a single thought of the consequences, she acts crazy when confronted with her inadequacies, she has lied and not admitted where she has been or who she was with, she goes out to bars when I’m away. I caught her before doing inapporpriate things and she lied about that too. Now she has said that she has a lawyer and is filing papers. Its time for her to go, but what do I have to prove in court so that I don’t end up having to compensate her for her infidelity?
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Tags: classic signs, consequences, health club, inadequacies, infidelity, lawyer, money
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Hate to tell you this, you could go in with pictures and it wouldn’t matter.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Well you can’t prove fault in a divorce by demonstrating that she dresses sexy, that’s for damn sure.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
If you wish a divorce, hon, all you have to do is file. In the US, most states have what is called "no fault". That you don’t wish to be married is enough.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
wah wah wah, sign the papers and move on
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
You would have to have pics but don’t worry just being away from her will make you feel better the world is full of tramps like her eventually she won’t have any asseta at her disposal and she will die a bitter old skag. Good luck
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Just take the facts that you can to prove your case. If you know for sure whom she has been with you give names and then they are questioned. You really need to have facts that you can prove and not be mistaken.
Photo’s, documents, witnesses that are willing to come forward etc.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
all the things she is doing adds up to…..you aren’t giving her enough attention so she’s going to go out and find it if it kills her or costs her her marriage.
while you are busy trying to prove her infidelity, why don’t you also prove that you weren’t attentive enough and you got the shaft because of it.
seriously, just sign the papers and be done with it. she’s obviously done wasting her time trying to get your attention.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
You can’t be serious! Our entire legal system is based on the fact that people are innocent until proven guilty. That includes divorce. PROVE IT!!!!
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Why are you confronting her about her inadequacies? Why does she need to tell you where she goes and who she was with all the time? You sound alittle controlling and you don’t trust he because she is so attractive. Maybe you have good reason to believe she is cheating on you.
If you feel you have to prove she has been cheating on you, then hire a detective to follow her and take pictures.
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
As dumb as it sounds… most states do not reconize the infedelity factor. Now if you share a house with her along other big assets, you might be able to pull off an infidelity act in court and get some of the bigger assets that you share right now. You probably will need pictures and or people who are willing to testify on your behalf.
On the other hand, you can accept these retarded actions your wife has made and start a new life without dragging her through the dirt. I suppose she knows she is wrong, and she definately knows that she hurt you, which should be the biggest mistake she has ever made. It is up to you to be the bigger person. If you do go your seperate ways, tell her in person how bad she made you feel then turn around and leave her standing there watching her man walk away forever because of her selfish actions. You will feel better.
Her new man will have to deal with her while you are doing your own thing. What ever she throws at you, kill her with kindness….. That always works for me!!!
Hey guy, good luck!!!
December 28th, 2009 at 2:31 am
Since the 1970’s most states have uncontested divorces- You don’t prove anything except that you don’t want to be married anymore.
You don’t want years of arguement in court- imagine the cost!
I think you are refering to spousal support .
Spousal support, as it is now commonly called, used to be known as “alimony.” Spousal support is not mandatory in most states but can be ordered by a judge under certain circumstances.
If a spouse will face hardships without financial support, spousal support should be considered. The deciding factor for spousal support is the need to maintain the spouse at his or her customary standard of living. In other words, the law recognizes a husband or wife should not be forced to live at a level below that enjoyed during the marriage.
However, other factors also need to be considered. For example, spousal support should most likely not be considered if:
The marriage was for a short duration (less than two or three years), and,
Both spouses are employed and self-sufficient.
This does not mean the parties cannot agree on spousal support.
There is no firm dollar figure used to calculate spousal support. The amount should be decided by both parties.