can anyone give me advice?
OK. so my boyfriend was talking to another girl a while back and he left me….soon he came back to me and i took him back. at first i suffered like crazy because i was hurt, he told me that he was wrong for leaving me and that he missed me and that he was stupid for doing what he did. so when he told me this also told me he was going to prove it to me. he made me feel loved again and he said to me that he would never do it to me again, he spends most of his time with me and calls me in the morning and he has so far not given me a reason to believe he would fool areound again. so here is the problem, i feel like i trust him, but every now and then i remember how much he hurt me before and i begin to doubt things. the way things are going do you guys think hell do it again or do you guys think he completely trustworthy, again he has shown any signs of infidelity and he really does make me feel loved. opinions???
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August 8th, 2010 at 7:21 am
I think there’s real hope for your relationship. It sounds like he made a mistake, knows he made a mistake and regrets it. And he even wants to make it up to you.
From the way you said it, it sounds like he didn’t actually cheat on you. For whatever reason, he wanted to date this other girl so he broke up with you. That means he didn’t want to go behind your back and cheat on you…which unfortunately, most people would do if they thought they could get away with it. So he sounds very honest.
I wonder what made him feel he had to date this other girl? Did he get scared of how close he was feeling to you? Were things not going well in your relationship and he wanted to see what it was like in a different one? Does he not have a lot of relationship experience and he felt he needed more? Whatever the reason, it sounds like he got his answers and came back to YOU. And let’s face it, even though it hurt you that he broke up with you, it was the right and honest way to deal with it. You wouldn’t have wanted him to stay with you if he wasn’t sure, would you? Now he is and he’s demonstrating it to you in all the ways he can.
There are no guarentees in life and you could end up getting hurt again…you could even break up again…but that could happen in ANY relationship. And if it does, you always have the choice of moving on or getting back together.
Since you’ve decided this time to get back together, trust your decision and be confident it will work…if you expect problems, you’re only asking for trouble. Treat it as you would any relationship. Don’t be naive or put up with things you shouldn’t but don’t hold back because of fear either.
August 8th, 2010 at 7:21 am
You know.. That’s a crapy feeling. i understand what you ‘re going through. If you love him.. stay with him… But keep this in mind.. Once bitten.. His fault. Twice bitten.. My own fault. It’s hard.. nearly impossible to predict the future. All you can do is live it day by day. Good luck:)
August 8th, 2010 at 7:21 am
This is completely your own choice.
If you really think he’s making this all up to you because he betrayed you then, stay with him.
only you can know.
but i felt the same way as you too.
my bf broke up with me then came back to me saying that he missed me.
it went well for a few weeks but it didn’t last too long.
but it really seems like your bf is trying to prove it to you by calling you alot.
because even though my bf came back, he never tried to make it up for me.