Comments on: Can anyone explain this behavior of a man? I am clueless…?

By: hydropro

hydropro — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

Why does he hate you is the last question you should be asking!!! You have stated the facts and protecting your children and yourself is the first thing for you to do.
Wondering why his mother backs him is irrelevant at this time. She most likely went through the same which means he probably saw the same done to her and sees it as acceptable.
On a deeper level, personalities like the one you have described are typically weak and powerless in most aspects of their lives. The only way for these type of men to feel big is to keep their women small.
Before you start questioning your issues, stop and recognize what is best for your children. If he is indeed the character you have described, why on earth would you or any woman want anything to do with him??? Think about it, the women he is having these affairs with can not be wrapped to tight to be involved with him, right?

Good luck to you and your children.

By: Becca

Becca — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

some guys are low and unbelieveable. just like he sounds. you deserve better. so do your 3 babies. don’t stay and let them go through this. you can find a man who will be faithful, and love you and your kids. good luck

By: Queen of Beer

Queen of Beer — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

Wow, well you know what they say - the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. Look where he learned this awful behavior - his own mother! Sad really, but sadder you have stayed with this pig for this long. Leave Saturday and don’t look back! His whole family seems nuts!

By: jimmy.parker06

jimmy.parker06 — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

get a divorce, stand on your own feet and raise you kids. The reason he treats you like trash is because you depend on him for paying for everything you need in life.

By: freebird

freebird — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

he hates his self.call legal aid (in your phone book) and hang his ass.

By: tiarawynn

tiarawynn — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

When I first read about your husband becoming angry and awful, I immediately thought it could b due to infidelity. Glad to know I am perceptive as always.

Sassy, don’t put up with this behavior, I don’t care who tells you it is all right - there is no justification for infidelity whatsoever.

By: MommyToType1Princess

MommyToType1Princess — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

He doesn’t hate you…he hates himself. Cheating is a way for him to boost his own lowered self esteem, the same way verbally or physically abusing you is. He is angry at himself and also thinks less of you for putting up with it even though he expects you to. He is selfish, self centered, and has no empathy or compassion for others. He may SAY he loves you, but the things you mention are ALL unhealthy ways of expressing "love".

His mother will defend him to the ends of the earth and justify his behavior further enabling him to continue acting the way he does. She most likely played a role in the way he feels about himself.

Do yourself a favor and love yourself for you. YOU know what a wonderful person YOU are…do not let HIM dictate that for you. You deserve better!! Take your kids out of the extremely toxic situation you are in. They are all bearing the brunt of the effects, the same as you. Seek counseling if you need it for you and the kids.

He is not going to change unless he himself wants to. Even if he does, it doesn’t mean you will still want to be with him. Perhaps he can make himself a better person for him. That shouldn’t be your concern anymore. Focus on making yourself a better person…for YOU and your children. The first step is one you already have gained the strength to do…leaving!!

Try not to worry about his motivations or how or why he does things. It will only confuse the way you feel about things as you try to justify his behaviors or excuse them even when there is no excuse.

GOOD LUCK and BIG HUGS!!

By: jbrbears

jbrbears — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

you need to divorce this neanderthal, and take him for as much child support as you can. no one deserves this kind of treatment, no matter what His MOM says. she’s a loony tune too!

By: gabrielsmusicaz

gabrielsmusicaz — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

I have a question for you…why is his ass not in jail? If he is putting his hands on you, theres no reason why he wouldnt hurt your children. you need to report him to the police IMMEDIATELY!!!! and have him arrested. I applaud you for leaving, but why even wait. This is not something that requires thought. Get out and get out now! You dont know what could happen in the next 3 days, you may be dead! LOG OFF AND RUN!!!!!

By: loverofsunflowers1

loverofsunflowers1 — Thu, 24 Feb 2011 16:30:46 +0000

I am so dearly sorry you are going through this i cannot imagine the pain you have been enduring. im sorry to say this but your husband is an evil jerk…well…jerk just doesnt seem too fitting..asshole…please leave him. you deserve to be valued and loved dont put up with this. hes acting out of his own selfish desires..if you are planning on going to court for this, take pictures of all of the times he bruised you for evidence. maybe keep a recording of all the times hes left mean phone messages? get your children out of this environment, they shouldnt see any of this.