All the signs are being thrown in my face…Why can't I let it go?(A cry for help)?
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for awhile now and I’ve been feeling like there’s infidelity in our relationship.First the weird dream I had about him cheating on me, 2nd my friend tells me that she saw my boyfriend with a bisexual woman, 3rd this distance we’re suddenly having between one another.It’s like he hardly notices me anymore and everytime I talk to him about the situations he brushes me off.I can barely get a word out without him trying to sway the conversation.When I try to hold a decent conversation with him he acts as if he’s listening, but I feel he doesn’t care.I have another guy friend who I can talk to and he LISTENS and gives advice, my boyfriend does neither.He only pays me attention when he wants something…sex which is the majority of the time.When I tell him no he acts as if he has to be somewhere and when I say yes after sex he leaves ten minutes later.I feel as if I always go for guys like him and brush the decent ones away.Why can’t I let him go?Advice please
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Tags: bisexual woman, brushes, decent conversation, guy friend, infidelity, relationship, weird dream
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
You are trying to fill the emptiness within yourself, something you may not be aware of. So we date and like to go out with guys like that because it keep us busy. But the reality is that we are putting ourselves down when we do that and this kind of guys end up hurting us. You have a friend that is trying to tell you I’m here if you need me, do not ignore him. I am not telling you to go running to him and dump your b/f, that is your decision. But you have to be strong enough to take a decision. Your now b/f is not gonna change, his immaturity will last for a long time; he is actually telling you he is not ready for that relationship, leave aside a commitment. Take action yourself don’t wait for somebody to solve your problem that only you can solve. Good Luck
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
RUN! Now. That guy friend you talk to? He’s not a "Friend". He’s the guy you SHOULD be dating. Leave your boyfriend and go get what you deserve. A guy who likes you and puts the sex second.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
you care about him too much
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
He’s a bastard. Why would you want him. You’re better than that.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
If you aren’t feeling comfortable with him, break it off.
If you really love the guy, tell him up front. If he tries to sway the conversation again, just yell at him. Try honestly to get his attention. If that doesn’t work, contact one of his friends to tell him what he’s doing wrong.
Good luck!
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Oh..My..God that sounds like the exact same situation that i had with my Xboyfriend……yeah i felt the same way at the end when i didn;t want it to end. But dump him. do it now. he’s a jerk. he always will be. it happened to me.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
I GUESS YOU HAD FEELINGS FOR HIM AND WHEN YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ITS H*** TO LET THEM GO BUT IN YOUR CASE YOU NEED TO FOR YOU HE SOUNDS LIKE AN A___HOLE YOU NEED BETTER AND DESERVE BETTER
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
maybe because your heart is blind…it cant see the people that are close to you or that admire you from a distance. And becuase you think that if you let him go you’re gonna die. You already have a while with him and it’s hard for you to let go. Cuz something about him atracts you so much that you have to have it.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Yeah I would work on moving on, I am curios how old you are. It seems like a lot of women go through a phase of dating guys like that and quite a few guys go through a phase of acting like that hopefully we all grow out of it but I wouldn’t hold your breath on your current boyfriend though it sounds more like a f**k buddy.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
I have been in that situation and i know how you feel. Dont give him what he wants until he gives you your awnswers and really you need to let go of guys like that and find a new good or GREaT guy!
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
I’ve been there, felt the sick awful feeling afterwards. I could tell you to quit answering his calls, etc., but I know you can’t stop. I couldn’t until something awful happened. Bless you sweetie.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
You love him,thats why you can’t let him go,but the truth is at this point its best for you and for him if you just break up with.He’s acting differently and brushing you off as you said thats because the love that was once there isn’t there anymore.If all he wants you for is sex,then he is using you for sure,he’s getting all the "fun" stuff out of you and leaving the rest to rot.This guy is a boyfriend,he’s a big jerk,break up with him so you wil be happy.Best of wishes.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
You can’t leave because he’s a challenge to you and you want to findout all the answers. Sometimes you just have to let it (him) go. It’s only natural to wonder why he’s this or doing that but there comes a point where you just have to say "that’s enough" and just move on. You may be afraid to do it whether consciously or subconsciously but you don’t deserve to be treated that way and he is definitely taking you for granted. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide but I would say leave him.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
regardless of weather or not he’s cheating on you, he’s acting like an arsehole to you and treating you terribly honey- YOU DESERVE BETTER! And you CAN have it! Please don’t feel like you have to stay with someone like him. I know that you have feelings for him but he’s obviously not sincerely in love with you, he doesn’t care enough and as I said- you deserve beter so move on- turn the tables on him and tell HIM YOU want to break up. And surround yourself with friendas and family to go out and have fun with. You deserve respect and he’s not giving it to you.
Good luck.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Sound you already know the answer to the question and just don’t want to accept it. Most women that do this don’t feel like they can find any better, which is nonsense. Get smart girl, and stop getting used. Cut him off TOTALLY!! I mean completely act like he don’t exist. Don’t answer his calls, act like you’re not home if he comes by. You deserve better. But its bad that I know this but you don’t. This question makes me angry because I have a friend just like you, and it took her getting two STD’s before she got smart and left him alone. Better go get checked out.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
It depends if you want a big boy that just wants sex(ME), or short comings that wants to talk. No offense but thats just how it is and allways will be…..
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Girl, stop being co-dependant!!! This guy sounds like he’s hitting and running, a definate sign of infidelity! You need to think about who else hes sleeping with possbly and you need to put astop to the sex PERIOD!!! If he has feelings for you he’ll stick around, if not real quickly he’ll tell you the "we need to talk" speech. If hes sleeping around girl you are putting yourself out to catch something regardless of protection!! You can still get herpes and crabs using protection properly! Kno when you "get with" a man kthat you are the only one hes getting with, not some booty call with emotional strings attached!
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Dump this guy before he leaves you with some thing you can’t cure. Communication is the key to a meaningful relationship. Go with a caring compasionate caring guy. The brivado dudes suck in the future and leave you pregnant and alone to pick up the peaces.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
But you’re probably not interested in the guy friend who you can talk to, are you?? You’re problem is all too common. Women today would rather chase a total jackass whose not interested in her around than have a meaningful relationship with a nice guy. Her ego cannot possibly comprehend a man not being interested in her, so she focuses on what she can’t have, usually abandoning something much better that she could have. It’s the addiction of the chase and the drama, compounded by the exponentially growing egos of our generation, and I think we’re finally seeing the age where women and men are becoming incompatible.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Leave him alone!! He’s wasting your time. You could be enjoying yourself with another man or just being single period! Leave him alone, he sounds like a dog…You’re probably one of those good, innocent girls that can’t leave a bad boy alone–but you must and should! Its for your own good! If you still dunno what to do, throw a brick at him.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Sweetie, for some reason you allow these so called boy friends use you. You need to move on, perhaps with your other guy friend, that would be a start. At least he does not use you and he cares enough for you to listen to you. And shows you attention. It could be you have low self esteem. People are not born with low self esteem. This is brought on by what life as dished out to them, you may not even know about it, or recognize it. If you were my daughter, I could sit you down and have a heart to heart talk with you. But you’re not. Have you tried talking to your mom? She may be able to help you more than you can possibly realize. She was your age once and from my experience, moms can come up with some pretty good advice. If you can’t go to your mom, do you have a mentor you look up too? An Aunt who has been through the dating and teen years, or a cousin, or even a friends mom that you feel comfortable with. Or, maybe talk to your school counselor. I wish you luck. I hate to see young girls go through this. Because if you don’t change the path you are traveling now, you will end up being a doormat the rest of your life. You deserve so much more.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Don’t be a martyr to a man who is just using you for sex, be smart, ignore him before you get hurt more. Next time, if you fall in love, just don’t get attracted to cute guys, , look into their morality issue first, and if you can just avoid sex with them, then you might find your match! good luck.
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
IT is better said that done! When your in love you often blindfold yourself and look past his/her faults, but you seem to be seeing clearly. What he cant do for you, another man will gladly do. Its not to say that he dosent love you, because im sure he does. Some of us like to have our cake and eat it too!! Your body is precious,and so is your time…..dont let him waste either of them. Think about what is in your best intrest : if it is staying and working things out (people do change) or if it is starting over, just do what makes you happy and put god first (you cant go wrong)
March 18th, 2010 at 12:11 pm
Happens to both genders, can happen to the young and old. We all want to reach for what we think is the "best". But that guy is treating you like -dirt-. Look elsewhere. Relationships are a two way street. You should be having fun and enjoying your partner’s company. Maybe you won’t get the hottest of the hotties. But having a relationship that really clicks is muuuch sweeter.