Comments on: advise needed for heart-broken friend:(? http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend How to look for signs of infidelity. Sun, 20 May 2012 22:18:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: cinnamon35 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-948 cinnamon35 Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-948 This is not the first time he has said hurtful things to her. However, now it is extreme. From now on when he attempst to have sex with her it is not going to be right no matter if what he said was true or not. Weather people believe or not that cheating would involve having someone else on your mind other than your spouce or significant other; I think it is. Have you ever herad the saying, "A drunk speaks a sober mind?" Well I believe in that too. Trust me I have been drunk and said things that were not supposed to be repeated. If she truely loves this man she should accept his apology and move on. If she is so hurt that she can't get over what he said then you should tell her to start packing. I know divorce and moving and all of that is hard on people but sometimes there is no other way. All you can really do is be there for her. Listen to what she has to say and support her in whatever her decision may be. People make rash decisions in the heat of the moment and you don't want to be the blame or part of the cause for her making any decisions and she really wants to be with her husband. Good luck to you with this. This is not the first time he has said hurtful things to her. However, now it is extreme. From now on when he attempst to have sex with her it is not going to be right no matter if what he said was true or not. Weather people believe or not that cheating would involve having someone else on your mind other than your spouce or significant other; I think it is. Have you ever herad the saying, "A drunk speaks a sober mind?" Well I believe in that too. Trust me I have been drunk and said things that were not supposed to be repeated.

If she truely loves this man she should accept his apology and move on. If she is so hurt that she can’t get over what he said then you should tell her to start packing. I know divorce and moving and all of that is hard on people but sometimes there is no other way. All you can really do is be there for her. Listen to what she has to say and support her in whatever her decision may be. People make rash decisions in the heat of the moment and you don’t want to be the blame or part of the cause for her making any decisions and she really wants to be with her husband. Good luck to you with this.

]]> By: inthewateriremain http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-949 inthewateriremain Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-949 If they are normally a happy couple, then divorce shouldn't be the first thing that gets jumped to. I think some very intensive marital counseling is in order. If they are normally a happy couple, then divorce shouldn’t be the first thing that gets jumped to. I think some very intensive marital counseling is in order.

]]> By: abc http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-950 abc Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-950 he needs to address his drinking issue he needs to address his drinking issue

]]> By: Kim http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-951 Kim Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-951 Suggest that he stop drinking and work on his anger issues. If she loves him she will work on it with him. Just be there for her, just because a woman has a problem she doesn't always want opinions or advice she wants a shoulder to cry on. Suggest that he stop drinking and work on his anger issues. If she loves him she will work on it with him. Just be there for her, just because a woman has a problem she doesn’t always want opinions or advice she wants a shoulder to cry on.

]]> By: meltedwatches http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-952 meltedwatches Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-952 This isn't something to get divorced over, but seeing a marriage counselor would help teach them to work through problems like these. He said some really hurtful things, and whether he meant them or not doesn't change how much they hurt his wife. Part of marriage is forgiving stupidity. It's not easy, but marriage isn't supposed to be easy. The difference between dating and marriage is that in marriage, you don't run when the shit hits the fan. She should accept his apology, and he should do his best to make it up to her. And he should avoid alcohol for a long, long time. This isn’t something to get divorced over, but seeing a marriage counselor would help teach them to work through problems like these. He said some really hurtful things, and whether he meant them or not doesn’t change how much they hurt his wife. Part of marriage is forgiving stupidity. It’s not easy, but marriage isn’t supposed to be easy. The difference between dating and marriage is that in marriage, you don’t run when the shit hits the fan. She should accept his apology, and he should do his best to make it up to her. And he should avoid alcohol for a long, long time.

]]> By: rachel m http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-953 rachel m Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-953 tell her it was probably just the alcohol talking , maybe they should not drink together or very little , other then that just tell her it will be OK , you understand he hurt her and you are sorry about that, just make her feel better take her out or something for a girls night and have fun. i will say this people who are very drunk tend to lose their heads and talk out of their butt it's a fact so do not worry too much, good luck tell her it was probably just the alcohol talking , maybe they should not drink together or very little , other then that just tell her it will be OK , you understand he hurt her and you are sorry about that, just make her feel better take her out or something for a girls night and have fun. i will say this people who are very drunk tend to lose their heads and talk out of their butt it’s a fact so do not worry too much, good luck

]]> By: tami m http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-954 tami m Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-954 alot of people say horrible things when they are angry and drunk. He apoligized, shes hurt I get that but divorce over some heated words? That just doesn't make any sense. If they are a happy couple then that should speak for itself. alot of people say horrible things when they are angry and drunk. He apoligized, shes hurt I get that but divorce over some heated words? That just doesn’t make any sense. If they are a happy couple then that should speak for itself.

]]> By: crazyworld http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-955 crazyworld Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-955 Please Please Please tell her to see a marriage counselor. They have serious problems when they drink. Any man that would say anything along that line to their spouse needs to go get mental help. Please Please Please tell her to see a marriage counselor. They have serious problems when they drink. Any man that would say anything along that line to their spouse needs to go get mental help.

]]> By: GardenofWeeden http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend/comment-page-1#comment-956 GardenofWeeden Mon, 31 May 2010 02:05:55 +0000 http://infidelitysigns.net/advise-needed-for-heart-broken-friend#comment-956 How long have they been married? I don't honestly think divorce is the answer at this stage unless this is thrown out alot when fighting. People strike to hurt and gain time to think when fighting, i think that it allows the time to process information that was said in the "heat of the moment". My advise as a married gal would be to start with an honest and candid talk (if at all possible). Both sexes fantasize about "others" from time to time. Its natural as long as it doesn't overshadow the partner. Then something has gone wrong and you have to find the problem to fix it. Divorce has become too easy. It's harder to keep fighting but most of the time it's worth it especially if kids are involed. Good luck to your friend. How long have they been married? I don’t honestly think divorce is the answer at this stage unless this is thrown out alot when fighting. People strike to hurt and gain time to think when fighting, i think that it allows the time to process information that was said in the "heat of the moment". My advise as a married gal would be to start with an honest and candid talk (if at all possible). Both sexes fantasize about "others" from time to time. Its natural as long as it doesn’t overshadow the partner. Then something has gone wrong and you have to find the problem to fix it. Divorce has become too easy. It’s harder to keep fighting but most of the time it’s worth it especially if kids are involed. Good luck to your friend.

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