Abandoned Married Males options to remain sane?
In my mid 30’s. Married for 5 years. Wife has taken our sex life very quickly to technically zero%. We both have ok jobs and are kind to each other, but she’s no longer affectionate. She declined counseling and I see no signs of any infidelity from her. Shes a workaholic. She knows I’m in bad need, but totaly ignores me. Can’t afford a devorce. How can I keep myself sane until I can afford to leave what has become a sexually frustrating nightmare?
She’s an administrator in a major retailer and makes a very small amount more than me. I’m able to meet with her or talk with her at any point in the day or night. She’s not getting with anybody. Trust me! There’s no concern at all about her fidelity. What I am guilty of is maybe not doing my share of basic housework or chores sometimes. I think it’s because I’m getting more and more bitter as time goes by and she’s giving me no incentive at all to do more.
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Tags: chores, devorce, fidelity, housework, infidelity, jobs, nightmare, sex life, signs, workaholic
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
She won’t go to counseling, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t go. Go get the help that you need to handle this situation.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Before jumping to divorce maybe you should talk to her again abut it. I mean she may have some medical condition she is not aware of or maybe it’s her hormones. If you really love your wife than you should try all you can before jumping to the end of the relationship! Maybe if you try to sound more supportive as to why this is happening to her instead of why she is doing this to you she might let you in and express what’s going on or be more willing to seek help. Hope things get better!!
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
whack off.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Dude if you think she is not getting any, think again. It is probably her boss or a coworker, unless all of a sudden she decides to be lesbian…. which still would get her satisfied at work…. Workaholic is just an excuse you buy.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
You "both have okay jobs" and "she is a workaholic" and you can’t afford to leave or a divorce? Odd.
Maybe she feels she has to be a workaholic and that leaves her exhausted with little energy? Since you apparently aren’t one, have you tried doing things around the house so she isn’t going 24/7? You say she knows how you feel, but does she know you’d truly leave because of this? You still need to have better communication as I am guessing her side of the story might be very different.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
You’re only here once - makes your choices. Stay and shut up or leave.
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Porn and alcohol, strip bars
Uncle Charlie
January 31st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Your wife is being a b*tch.
I’m a woman and even after 2 small kids and a ton of stuff to do in my day, I still manage to entertain my husband 3-4 times a week.
Look, if she is overworked, this could be it.
However, if she is ever in the mood, if there is a will, there is a way.
I can’t tell you how many times my husband and I shagged even though we were exhausted.
Either way.
Talk to her about your need to be with her.
If she laughs it off, do what Uncle Charlie said.
Good luck.